i have a good relationship with my gf and enjoy going down on her for her pleasure as much as mine, which she loves, but when it comes to pleasing me she is reluctant and when on the occassion she does i know shes not enjoying it so have stopped trying. have disscussed it with her but she says she just "dosent like it" yet more than happy for me to do it.is it selfish on my part to want to recieve what i give? i love every inch of her but feel some hurt that she dosent love every inch of me. am i wrong in feeling this way?
no its not selfish of you to want oral when you perform it, but you cant force her to do something she doesnt like. i guess you have to figure out how important having that as part of your sexual compatibility is to you. i think you two should talk about why she doesnt like it though. i mean, some dont because they dont liek the taste (they have flavoured lubes or eat a mint first), some dont like the guy cumming in her mouth (well then only use it as foreplay), some are worried about the guy shoving his cock down their throat (in which case use a position where shes far more in control), etc.
I absolutely refuse to go down on a girl, I know some girls who just hate to give oral sex also... but i don't think anyone minds receiving it...
I was in your shoes, brother. Look at other aspects of your relationship. Is she selfish in other areas aside from this one issue? If it only seems to be giving a blowjob that she is hesitant to do for you, and the rest of the relationship is fine (ie she's very loving, attentive to your needs, thoughtful, etc.) then like Allonym said, decide if receiving oral is something that you need from your partner. If you decide that oral reciprocation is necessary, then you're not being selfish, only true to yourself. As a side note, something that I always wanted to try with my ex, but never got around to was to allow myself to be tied to the bed, while she was encouraged to experiment orally taking baby steps. I always thought that a situation like that which would give her full control might allow her to warm up to things she wasn't comfortable. Then again, in my case it turned out to be simple physics. Jaw aches, etc. :/ good luck mate.
