guidence for woman on top please

can someone please tell me how to do this position as im having no sucess at all as far as im concerned, i cant do the up and down thing for him, but i have great trouble getting anything out of it at all for me, at best i can feel if hes about to come out and thats it, so whats this "feel the sensation" thing i keep hearing about? there is none at all. i just dont get this grind on him thing i read about, i cant get my clit to touch his pelvic bones at all . help please is you can

 

Me and my bf get on my floor because its a hard surface and it helps me out with balance a lot and then i squat down like im peeing, slide him in me, and then go up and down. Sometimes ill rub my clit or he'll rub it and play with my boobs. It makes everything feel so much better. And its a work out for my legs so i love it a lot. He hates when i just get on top of him and just go up and down because it gets really messy and it doesnt really feel like anything because there toomuch cum from me to even feel him inside me. Just try the hard surface thing it will help out a lot for both of you and maybe if it does work next time try leaning back on your hands while your on top. That also helps with everything.

 

i can agree that the hard floor helps but as for leaning back that causes both of us to be in pain then, the touching the clit and boobs? erm just how does that make it any better, as when hes tried that it doesnt change a thing, in fact i cant even tell if hes done it or not, it goes numb totally then once hes inside of me, same if we use a vib then to on full power, it dont work at all

 

try puttin one leg of the bed and on to floor gives you more control that way ... least for me it does

 

tried that, get better balance, but dont get any better feeling from it tho

 

have ya tried facing the opposite direction with yer head toward his feet?

 

yeah tried htat a few times and it was mega painful for both of us

 

I get the feeling that you are sitting too far back on his hips. You being on top should not be painful for either one of you. Basically if his dick has to be straight up and down (90 degree angle to his body) you are about an inch or two too far back, so move forward slightly. You could also try rolling your hips forward (sit on top and move your ass forward but not your body) and that will allow you to reach your clit.

Try being on your knees with your feet (toes mainly) under his thighs and slowly moving your hips around. Some women get little to no pleasure out of "up and down" but enjoy a slow grind. Or, have him sit on the sofa, and straddle him.

What works for one person often does not work for another, so just keep trying different things until you figure out what you like. Woman on top sex does not end up being like what you see in a porn, so don't shoot for that. Have fun with it, and you will eventually find what works.

 

not sure why you're so intent on doing something you don't enjoy. just do whatever feels good.

 

i have been trying for 27 long years and i just cant find any reason to do it at all other than for him. theres nothing in it for me at all

 

Stop trying and find (or just continue doing) something you both like. No reason to keep being disappointed. I am amazed that he still wants it when you obviously get no pleasure from it. I guess I am just used to my husband, because if I wasn't getting turned on his mood would be ruined.

 

if he's asking for it, ask him if there's a reason he wants you on top. maybe he just wants you to sexually dominate him. there's other ways to do that.

 

such as?

 

there's alot of good books on the subject. there's also a ton of info on the net. just do some google searches and read.

 

done that and found nothing that i would be able to do, or feel comfortable doing

 

well, if your man is asking you to dominate him, and you refuse to do it...ummm...good luck.

 

he isnt asking me to dominate him all he wants because he readin many books is that for a woman to have an orgasm that if she goes on top its better/easier for her that way and all he wants is for that to happen for me one day as it will be a first time for me in 25 years of being married

 

oh, if that's all it really is, then he needs to let it go...obviously.

 

he wont hes on a mission now that hes found out that ive never ever had one in my life

 

you mean you've never had an orgasm or just never had one while on top?