i dont understand my friends

well i thought after my friend got a dui that would stop them from drinking and driving but i guess not since my roommate had to get wendy's last night. I just hope they dont kill themselves or worse someone else.

 

Hey- sometimes it takes time for things to sink in... time meaning years. I can totally identify with what your friends did. Best thing you can do is not put yourself in a position to get hurt (by getting in a car driven by a drunk friend, for instance) and try to run interference with them putting themselves in danger- order out for pizza, take the keys, etc. People will do what they are going to despite what they know to be smart. I'm the poster boy for that.

 

At least you're the responsible one who is smart enough not to drive drunk. Some people just don't care though. My fiance/boyfriend since we're probably never getting married had 3 duis. He went to jail in january of 06 for 4 months. I stayed with him while he was in jail, but now I wish I hadn't.
He felt that he should serve time for his last dui since he has gotten away with so much over the past 20 or so years. His lisence was suspended for 2 years, and guess what? He's getting it back next month on his birthday. I'm really afraid now that he'll be driving again. Especially since there's a child in the mix. I don't want him driving with Jade in the car. He's an alcoholic, and I know he won't be able to stop himself from driving drunk. So he'll probably get thrown in jail again. But you know what? My problems would be solved if that happened. I wouldn't have to worry about the heartache of breaking up with him, or taking his daughter away from him. Because it wouldn't be my fault it would be his. So I'm kind of hoping this happens. If he does get get arrested again for drunk driving he'll have to finish his sentence of 2 years.

The only time I drive when I've been drinking is if I had 1 or 2 drinks in a restaurant. I try to take as long as possible though. Last night I was stoned, and I had one drink, and I still drove to the liquor store, but it was only like 1/4 mile down the road.
I try not to drive drunk or stoned though.

 

i feel like i should try and take keys but who am i to tell them what to do. The good thing was he wasnt too drunk but still. I definitely need to start enforcing the no drinking and drive rule here but im not usually the ones inviting people over.

I did try to get him to eat here hell i even offered to make the food and offered him some of my food too.

But ya i have been pretty good about not getting in the car if the driver is drunk although in the past i havent (especially over the summer when we had super 8 parties). Fuck i even remember one time we drove 20 minutes to work to make a pizza and the driver had drank a whole bottle of jim bean and didnt even remember me coming to the party.

 

Yeah, im sure overtime they will realize they are retarted. Just dont get in the car with them. Theres only so much you can do. At a certain point they just need to learn for themselves. Hopfully it wont take one of them dieing for that to happen.

Im sorry to hear about your problems with your boyfriend Jade. Hopefully you can find a way to work thinks out, or get out of the relationship without him having to go to jail.

 

Try something besides a heavy handed approach... suggest alternatives to fast food runs... try to have food on hand, etc. Offer to drive (although this could be something you learn to regret! )

edit- reread your post and clearly you've already tried most on my suggestion!

 

Thanks, I hope so too. I would feel really sad if jade and her daddy couldn't see eachother for 2 years outside of jail. You know?

 

man, i drink and drive occasionally i wont lie. But im good at it

 

ya ive been thinking about that, like tell them to go to the store and get munchies before drinking if im going to be too. Or i could be DD but the usually the bigger problem is not food but people driving home

 

i hate hearing shit like that, my friends say it all the time and the one that got the DUI said it too.

 

You always think you're the best driver when you're drunk.

 

Ive heard that one before.

 

it really bothers me when im partying with people and they decide they want something and then drive totally smashed.
i was at a party at my older brothers house a few weeks ago knockin' back tiquilla like it was fruit punch. between my brother and i we finished off a whold bottle of it...he decided he wanted chips and then someone wanted a ride home so he went out for over half an hour....i was so pissed off..drink and driving is just a dumbass thing to do

 

What really pisses me off is the fact so many people here at the same time would have nothing against driving stoned.

They're both wrong.

Though, once you've gone 60 miles down the highway on acid while your friend who is driving is also tripping just as hard as you are you lose your fear of drunk driving.

 

I don't think that's true for most of the people, but definitely for some. I hate driving stoned. You can get a dui for being drunk and/or on drugs. So I don't risk it either way.

 

I remember i drove on shrooms once, probably the stupist thing i had ever done but i did take an 8th the night before so i wasnt tripping out hard

 

man this is exactly the unhumane shit, you get like 3/4 months for a DUI which could have killed numorous people, a mass grower gets caught and gets like 10 years. some days i just want to go postal on the governent

 

I just got an MIP at school last week and ive decided i am never drinking again until im 21. I blew a 0.6 and got susepnded for 5 days and got a ticket from the same cop that arrested me when my old friend stole her parents car with out a liscense and crashed it and he also caught me going to school high last year.

 

Yeah, im sure its a really tough situtation. But I feel like you shouldent stay with somone your not happy with just for your kid. I mean, I feel like having two parents who fight all the time might even be worse then having them be seperated and only seeing one on occasions. I mean Obama was raised without his dad in the picture and hes the shit.

But I really dont know that much about this subject. Those are just my ignorant thoughts. Thankfully my parents have a good relationship.

 

driving while intoxicated is one of the stupidest things you can do. why not just walk around with a bomb strapped to yourself. and yeah my so-called friends got mad at me when i took there keys and they ganged up on me and got them back but i dont call them friends anymore... some people just dont get it.