A girl friend of mine has an issue, any thoughts welcome! She has been dating what I think is a really great guy for about 3 years now... Her best friend for a few years more has been in and out of dating a guy(#2)... He cheated on her a lot... And even once they broke up she was still pretty much a booty call, and wouldn't stand up for more. It was like he said jump and she said how high while jumping... So my friend a guy#2 have been distant friends(seen eachother occasionally and got along very well for that time)... After highschool everyone prettymuch parted their ways... Until recently she made a visit out of town to visit her best friend, whom now lives with guy#2. Apparently they've been going steady with no hangups for sometime... While visiting her friend, she spent some occasional alone time with guy#2, as friends do from time to time... But found herself asking if she wanted this to be more than just an occasional thing. And after being confronted by guy#2, basically reading her mind, telling her he knew she liked him and something along the lines of he liked her too... This is a sporatic guy, one a bit different than the one she lives with. He drives with an open can in one hand and a pipe in the other hand... So now she finds herself asking "Is this for real? Could he really want to change his ways for me? After multiple years of carelessness and self-abuse? Would he really be loyal? Or would I become another booty call? Is it worth losing my bestfriend? My boyfriend? My family-favored spouse?"
Most men have tendencies to cheat, whether they act upon them or not depends on the man's willpower and dedication to the one they're with. Not speaking from experience or anything, but that feeling does go away with age and knowledge. It all really depends on whether he's truly grown up and mature enough to look a women in the eyes and really mean it when he says "I want to be with you..." I guess I really didn't help too much on the issue, but I did give my perspective on it.
Lodog... He has looked her in the eye and 'said' he wants to be with her. And that he would change... She just doesn't know if he's just saying it to her face or if he really means it. In your idea, not necessarily from your own experiences, but maybe what you've seen and/or heard over time... What is the likeliness of a guy changing? Granted you cannot read one's willpower, so how is it the best to analyze his actions????
Actually women are almost as likely to cheat as men. It isn't the gender that is unfaithful, but the individual. To the OP: Don't walk....run! Your friend needs to steer clear of that guy. Yeah, it is possible for him to change, but does she really want to risk finding out? Seems like a pretty big risk to take when there are plenty of faithful men to be found.
i can see someone changing if they only cheated once, or felt extremely remorseful about it this guy is a chronic cheater. he does it all the time. why the hell woudl she want to be with him? if he can cheat that often hes probably good at convincing women hes good for them, when hes not. sounds like a bad decision all around
