sorry to hear about that, I know that's really rough. don't be awkward, just be honest. if you don't know what to say, don't say anything. death really isn't that bad, though. frankly, I'm happy that life isn't perpetual and that there (probably) is no sort of afterlife, aside from decomposition.
I've known a handful of people who have died, it doesnt actually bother me. It's as natural as being born and I am actually excited about my own death, not that I want to leave the party any time soon, but I dont see difference between my family and the rest of humanity. My family is life and everything that is a part of it. Death in my opinion, is a release from the prison of the ego conscious mind, and it is to embrace your true nature as love. Life and death are just phases for the mind that is confined to time. But eternity is your true nature, and you can embrace it. Rather than feel uncomfortable about having to deal with your own death and the death of your loved ones, you should learn how to accept it, but most importantly realize that it does not have to mean that life is worthless. Life is only worthless if you want it to be, and death does not have to necessarily mean that nothing else is waiting for you. And most importantly, pain of loss through death is caused by attachment, and (of course this is just my opinion) is also a cuase of pain for the soul being released into the bliss of God. When we cry out for them and wish they were here in our minds, the soul understands this and has a harder time letting go. Life is a letting go process, those who build up fortunes of material possesions and matter-minded personality have the hardest time meeting the dust. -
i watched my grandpa slowly dissapear. when you say goodbye, you don't think of what to say, you just speak, and listen. even though its just him breathing. i still think about him, and i still miss him, and i still cry, and it's been 3 years. But it also changes from fuck you world for taking away someone i love, to more like, well, he's got my back in life now. good luck though. losing someone you love sucks no matter how old they are.
then let this be your first reality check. it wont get any easier, but it will prepare you for what is to come. that is the trouble with getting close to someone eventually you have to say goodbye
My dad and grandpa died on the same day when i was in 7th grade, probably one of the worse days of my life but now I see death as a liberation unlike any other. Yeah, it sucks but at the same time I know they are free truly free, no longer held within this existance. I also feel like it has brought me, my brother and my mom closer together. I sometimes feel like I can feel them around me and sometimes I cry and sometimes I laugh and the world keeps on spinning
Hey babe. I can tell you that the first time you experience losing someone close to you, it will change your entire perspective about life and death, dramatically, and it might seem scary sometimes. But it will balance out. There is alot worth celebrating about this life, but death shouldn't be ignored just because it is sad...if it comes into your thoughts, acknowledge that. Decide how you feel about it. Its productive to your personal growth to figure out your feelings. Since, like you said, it is a part of life and will happen with people you love inevitably. That said, experiencing more death never makes it easier to cope with, but you will grow to understand yourself better and the experience and emotions connected to it. I cried last night over missing relatives, it happens, and its very releasing. Just give your nan the love you can give her, it will make everything alright, when you can look back on these experiences with her.
I know how you're feeling. But death isn't the end of a person. Just their presence. I've lost family and I've lost friends - even very recently - and it is hard. It sometimes hits you months.. sometimes years later. It's really strange.
I know how how you feel. It's not easy. My mum has cancer too. She has had it for years. When we first found out sha had a huge tumour in her stomach, they operated directly and it all went well. They thought they gotten everything, than just a few months ago we were told it was back. It was supposed to be her last check up before they gave her a clean bill of health so we were all pretty shocked. This time it's in her lungs but it's not a tumour yet so they can't operate this time just give her cemo. She has never smoked, she doesn't drink much, she doesn't have cancer in the family... I think... Just try to act as normal as possible, but always be there for her. My mum is really emotional.... just be supportive. Don't be afraid of talking about it though. Anyway, I just saw how old your message is so I suppose I won't need to tell you more. I hope she is responding to her medication. Remember Cancer isn't always a death sentence.
Moving on is a simple thing, It's what it leaves behind that's hard. - Dave Mustaine We will all die yes. Death is only a small part of life however. I understand you can't help but to feel this way, but realize that the longer you are down about this, the less you have to live, and therefore, the sooner you will die. I don't wish to be rude or disrespectful if this came off as that, I am just smacking you with Truth. Do with it what you will.... Peace and Love, John.
I'm really sorry...and I know how you're feeling, believe me. My grandfather was just told several days ago that he more than likely has cancer. They're doing a few more tests to determine a complete diagnosis, but it's not looking very good, and although we're hopeful, we're also preparing for the worst because he's not been in the best of health lately. I spent the other night unable to sleep, crying, just thinking about him, thinking of how things were when I was a little girl, how close I was to him then, the good times we had. I realize that in life, everyone has a 100% rate of mortality, however, it just hurts to think that cancer would be the end cause of taking away a loved one. It's not peaceful, it's not kind. I mean I'm not naive, my grandfather's health has been steadily declining, and he hasn't been looking well the past few months. More pale, more fragile, not his usual self. But I almost wish something sudden would happen instead of lingering on, making him in more pain. I lost my other grandfather to leukemia many years ago, however he was an evil, mean SOB, and his loss didn't affect me as deeply as the loss of my other grandfather will. I just hope whatever happens it's quick, and he doesn't have to suffer. Anyway, sorry for rambling. Just know that you're not alone. Many hugs...
