i want to start masturbation anally, but i tried and im too scared to and sdont go far in at all..any help?
You don't say whether the reason you don't go in very far is because of you fear or some other physical thing. If it's fear, then there's not really anything to be afraid of, so long as you're using sensible implements that can't harm you. After all, consider the size of some of the stools you can turn out. If it's a matter of what you're trying to insert, try beginning with something fairly slim. Use plenty of lubrication, and when you're actually making the penetration, try to override the sphincter's automatic reaction to pull back & tighten, and try to push, as if you were having a crap instead. Ideally you should be using something like a Butt Plug, which has flanges at the base to prevent losing it inside, but if you make sure of using something long enough to keep a grip on you should be OK. Alternatively, something like an everyday household candle is a useful dildo - usually a fairly standard size, but also available in a variety of lengths & widths - plus it has the advantage that if it does get lost, then it doesn't take long for the body heat to soften the wax to the same consistency of any other waste inside there & can be passed out just as easily (I speak from experience there - after a candle slipped & went all the way in, after about 15 minutes I just went to the bathroom & passed it out as a gelatinous blob, unrecognizable as a candle, apart from the remaining wick).
use something long that way you won't loose it if thats wot you mean by too far as already said as long as its something soft with no sharp edges you will have no problems as u'll feel when its in far enough or when it won't go i any more if its a solid object. i wish i new about the candle trick in my early days as i used a small dildo which slipped and went too deep- ended needing it removed which was slightly embarassing after getting the gf to try and pull it out by pretty much fisting me :&
use your fingers as your starter - massage the area between the penis and anal opening - take your time, use your pre-cum as a lube if possible. Play with the rim with your middle finger to relax and soothe your muscles, tension until you can slide the tip of your finger inside - take it slow. You will enjoy if you investigate positions, movement, sensations. In time you will find your way in - then you will have the double feeling of the finger and your inside, prostate, walls, rim, prostate, in, slightly out while stroking with the other hand. It is fantastic - indulge; set yourself a nice masturbation date & setting - take it nice and slow ....
Just take it nice and slow. If it feels uncomfortable, stop. Use a lot of lube. And definitely start with your fingers. It's hard to lose them up there.
I can help. Get yourself a "Prostate Vibrator" available online. It's thin so it won't hurt, and trust me. You'll know when you hit the right spot. you can't stop squirting.
You don't have to go very far in to hit your prostate, only about 3 inches and towards the front side of your body.
trust me as long as you stay calm there's nothing to worry about as long as you stay calm you can't really lose something so relax the sphincter naturaly is designed to push things out so as long as you relax it should technicaly should be easier to get out than it is too get in
Here is a short tutorial I typed up a while back. It's how *I* learned.. The key to this is to take your time and go slow. You learn how to control your butt and schincter muscles. You learn how to RELAX THEM and you get used to the feeling of it all. Anal play for beginners Disclaimer: I am NOT a doctor and I do NOT play one on TV. This is the way *I* learned how to discover anal play. As usual care needs to be practiced. GO VERY SLOWLY. First start off with a TRIMMED index finger. You may even want to put on a latex glove first to help make it even smoother. Use KY or the drug store brand of KY and lube the finger well. Place it VERY GENTLY near the anus and lightly circle the hole with the finger. DON'T INSERT YET. Just circle it for a few minutes. After a few minutes without insert, just put the finger over the anus and gently press a bit without entering. Just apply a bit of pressure. Do this over and over a few times and after a few minutes SLOWLY begin to insert JUST THE FINGER *TIP* in about a quarter of an inch then take it out. Do this a few times then go a LITTLE further in. Repeat this until you have you whole finger in. DO NOT FORCE IT, IF HE OR SHE OR YOU SAYS STOP, STOP! Within a week or so of trying this the person should be fairly used to the finger and inserting and pumping it in and out should become easy. Also try moving the finger around while inserted, back & forth,etc. Orgasms ARE VERY VERY INTENSE when you leave your finger or butt plug or dildo in. Soon you will want to try something slightly bigger than your finger. Try your middle finger or graduate to a SMALL butt plug. Same rules apply to the new toy as did with the finger. Start off using the finger as usual then after getting loose begin with the plug. Plugs have flared bottoms to prevent them from going all the way in. If you graduate to dildos later get ones with a flared base or ones that have the balls at the bottom. This prevents them from slipping all the way in. You don't need a trip to the ER to retrieve it, that would SUCK! After a while you will become very used to anal play and you won't need much time to prep for your session. You'll loosen up very quickly after you learn how to relax your anal muscles. It takes me less than 5 minutes to go from start to riding a 8 inch silicon dildo like a bucking bronco! GITTYUP LITTLE DOGGIE! The key to learning anal play/sex is to TAKE YOUR TIME.
thanks but whenever i try to insert something...im only 15 so i cant exactly order a special thing offline....my anal muscles really tighten so i stop...thats why i dont go anyfurther....i mean i want to fuck myself in the asss, badly, but im too scared to any further than like 5 cm's ...PATHETIC
im the same mongrel, up until a few days ago, i had never been able to get anything in more than a few cm's, on this occasion i just used a hotdog in a lubed up condom, it took me a while, but it finally passed that point and went in 3"-4" inches.
