Hi all, advice needed. I have recently discovered I am bi, for a long time i have been fighting this feeling of attraction to ladies, but I am to old to fight how i feel. I like both sides, matter of fact i am trying to hook up with this guy that just stood me up? oh well:& . Now there is this woman i play an online game with who is constantly flirting with me or at least i belive its flirting. Hell now i dont even know, but we met up over the holidays and she brought her man with her, the whole while i caught her looking my way, she even remembers little things like what color shoes i had on and things like my popping gum. when i asked her if my poppin gum bothered her she said no, so is this something to assume she might want something other than friend ship? oh another conversation we had was one where she wants her own time away from her bf and she is lookin for something more, but i was afraid to say anything to her about how i felt. today she asked me what did i do during the day and when i said nothing she quickly added "besides trying to run in to Joey" (the guy who stood me up). was that a shot at me or is that jealousy? :huh: Help if u can
i think you'll quickly discover that if you get together with someone who is always interested in the same things you are and thinks/acts the same way as you, you will become very bored with the relationship, if you're going to find a girl to be with find one thats different, or you know, find a man and you can pretty much invite any women over for 3sums anytime
look, don't over interpret or analyse her actions and what she says too much because it can cause problems and potentially ruin your friendship ending with the both of you being hurt. JUST BE HONEST! it is the key to all happiness. otherwise you'll never know where it could have gone and it could just continue as a bullshit platonic and futile sexual tension oriented relationship. which ultimately means nothing. if you want my advice, TELL HER HOW YOU FEEL. you won't regret making this courageous step. stop thinking and act! cheers, -franzde
p.s: didn't mean for that to sound harsh and if you tell her how you feel and she doesn't respond well; promise her that you won't pursue anything sexual and still want to be simply friends. she should understand and appreciate that.
I have to say ditto to franzde. As often as we hear it and as cheesy as it sounds, honesty really does work wonders. It's entirely possible that she feels the exact same way as you and has the same if not more worries and inhibitions. Yes, it will probably be awkward, but the worst she can say is no. It's definitely a leap of faith. We're all too familiar with the relationship games and the stakes are even higher when you're dealing with someone of the same sex for the first time. Just try not to worry, be honest with her and yourself and go for it! I'm rooting for you!!!
yes! if you don't you may regret it forever! at least you'll know for sure... life is simply too short, i know this all sounds a little trite and clichéd and that it is easier to give advice than to act upon it but if i were then i'd go for it! good luck, tell us how it goes, cheers! franzde
honesty works every fucking time! i've been with lots of women who (thought) they would rather eat shit and die before being with a woman. guess what? they loved it! all you gotta do is be honest, and be yourself. like someone else said, the worst that can happen is she can say no. and then you're like, ok... just checking! lol, i did that once with a friend... she was like... ewww, gross, i'm not a homo. i was like, ok... i just wanted to ask, and clear the air. we continued being good friends. three months later she got over her nerves and jumped me, ripped my clothes off, and begged me to teach her how to make love to a woman. so ya never know!!
