I know this is silly and I probably shouldn't take it to heart, but I just talked to a gay guy and he told me that guys can't be bisexual. They're "on the road to gaytown" as he put it. Honestly, I don't believe that. I'm bisexual and so is my boyfriend. We're in love and very physically attracted to each other. But since the guy said that, I can't help but worry that my boyfriend will turn gay and leave me or something. What do you think?
At times he might be more inclined towards guys,or towards women, but if he has had working relationships with guys and gals then i don't think you have a problem. Also if he REALLY loves you then you shouldn't be worried.
Even though I don't now the guy you talked to. I feel safe in saying he is full of shit regarding bisexual guys. Don't sweat it.
exactly ^ the thing i with bisexual guys is that they can be sometimes more or less inclined to either sex at any time or during any circumstance. it really depends on his mood. however what must be stressed if you guys are in a truly loving relationship is that you must make him feel free to express himself in any way regarding his bisexuality as it can be a very stressful and frustrating situation. and what that gay told you on the phone is full of shit. ignore him. being gay he would obviously know nothing about it anyway.
Thanks, I thought so too. I completely condone his bisexuality. I hate when people say bullshit like that.
Bisexuality is a difficult thing for people to understand. For some reason bisexuals are misunderstood by both homo- and heterosexuals. Everyone thinks you're playing the middle ground and that you'll make up your mind eventually. Of course, that's an unfair assumption. I've been in a committed relationship with a man for over a year and a half now and I'm still attracted to women (haven't been with one in as long... working on that... really hard). We discuss bisexuality and have little debates on our philosophy of sex and relationships and it gives both of us a better understanding of each other. Like everyone has said, don't worry about what the guy said to you on the phone. Thats his opinion and it doesn't have to matter to you at all. Just keep the lines of communication open with your boyfriend and you'll be fine.
That's just biphobic bullshit. For some reason there is a lot of that in the gay comunity, a lot more than I would have thought. It's as if homosexuals feel threatened by bisexuals for some reason. Both straight and gay have a hard time understanding bisexuality. But I don't know why. What's so hard to understand about being atracted to both genders?
I've been Bisexual for years and it's definitely stayed that way. As everyone else has said, it's horse crap. My mom doesn't really believe Bisexuality either. Well poo on that =P For me it's always been slightly geared more towards guys, but it swings around sometimes. Usually I'm more inclined towards guys, but this also works for me because I feel girls are just more difficult to get into anything with. Meaning relationships or otherwise.
