I was talking with my friend on aim that I would like to be my boyfriend but he told me all he wants to be is friends with benefits. I said something that made him mad and he said "don't make me get physical." I thought about it later on and I obviously don't want to be with someone that could possibly hurt me. But what if he didn't really mean it? Should I ever trust that he won't hurt me? He hasn't yet but I don't want to risk it.
you want a relationship all he wants is sex ... it wont work out, it wont be pretty. dont waste your time or his with needless drama.
I would take it as a lucky warning, if he is willing to say it he might be willing to do it so leave the idiot so he can spend his need to hit on smacking his own ass around.
I would get out of it while you still can. All he wants is sex, i dont even think he really wants a friendship with you. Leave him and go find someone who will actually care about you, someone that would want a relationship with you and someone who would treat you the way you should be treated. I had the same problem and i didnt leave, my so called "friend" hurt me, physically and emotionally. I will never forget all the things that happened to me because of him, every single detail is stuck in my head probly for the rest of my life.
He does sound a bit of a wacko. Maybe he said" dont make me get physical" to sound tough , or a a figure of speech ( tho I definitely suspect not), but either way there sounds like theres something abit disturbed about him. Id say avoid him like the plague. Negative people attract negative energy- try and avoid them both Good luck with better people.
he's already threatened you. take the hint and move on. there's better out there. don't settle for someone that doesn't want the same thing as you. maybe he'll see how wonderful you are and change his mind. but what if he doesn't? you'll feel used and hurt in the end. bon chance.
Dump that sack of shit whyle you can, nothing good will come out of it. Believe me he can find a fucking load of excuses, like i was drunk, im having a hard time being stressed and other fucktard material. Fuck him and think about yourself, you have nothing to relate to in a lame half cell creature like that. Believe me i know what i'm talking about. Anyway he isn't an actual man or even human to that matter. He can only bring suffering and pain in to your life.
Well it says Latvian only in my passport i have a totally difrent mentality. And i have quite a colorful picture of what happens when a man/shit starts to beat on his wife, daughter. And the site ain't pretty, the outcome was a suicide and a life fucked up... That is the outcome of listening to all those damn excuses. His wife always told that it is just this one time and well although we beat the shit out of him ten to thirteen times, after seven of them he spent time in the hospital and one time spent 24 hours locked in the back of a truck, then beaten again because he took a crap there, he never learned. You can't teach and old fuck new tricks.
I am sorry about what happened in that situation. I don't ever want to have to deal with the trama of having a man hit me. It is just so frustrating because he seemed like a nice, funny, and caring person. I don't know why he would say something so horrible to me.
You wrote that you said something that made him mad. I'm just wondering what you said that pissed him off so much that he threatened you. Don't get me wrong, I'm not implying that it's your fault. I'm just trying to understand why he would even think of violence.
I was reading this thread again. He said it on instant message yes? Ok looking at it here ot seems like hes a right piece of shit. But * maybe* it was a figure of speech , lost in the context of the conversation. Its difficult for us to give a complete answer because we didnt see that , or anything else about the 2 people. As an example , 2 friends might say "Im gonna kill u , if u do xyz again" , that doesnt actually mean " I m gonna kill u" Quite often the gist of the advice on a thread is set by the very first response. Sorry , its hard to be more help
I would just get out of it. The guy told you that not to make him "get physical". He may not have meant it, but that shouldn't matter, you should not stay around to figure out if he was serious or not. I know way too many girls that have been pushed around by their boyfriend's and they couldn't get out. Just get out while you can, and right now is the best time.
I guess first you should ask yourself, what do I know about this person? What kind of person is he generally? Does he like to threaten others? Have you seen him be violent or verbally abusive to others? Have you ever seen him mad about something? How did he act? Did he seem out of control? Have you ever felt unsafe around this person? If the answers to all these questions is no, you might want to consider that he was winging it off the top of his head and his "don't make me get physical" remark might have been a poor attempt at a joke, to try and lighten the mood and that you took wrong. But if the answers to the above questions are mostly yes. Then run, don’t walk, to the nearest exit!
