My dad and his past with marijuana

My dad is 56 years old, which means he started college at the University of Missouri around 1969, aka the golden age for hippieism and drugs. He once told me he used to be a hippie, and he never really tried very hard in highschool or college. Well I started to think about that when I was in 5th grade, around the time I was going through D.A.R.E, aka brainwash all the kids while they're too young to think freely. I remember asking my dad if he ever did illegal drugs, and he promptly said no and left the room hastly. 3 years later I asked him, and he was reluctent to answer, and finally admitted doing marijuana, but quickly added that it didn't take to him. Based on that I can conclude that either he is worried about me doing marijuana (which I do, unknown to him) because he doesn't want me to do the same things he did in school, or he is telling the truth. He also said he never did it in highschool, and that only about 10 people out of 600 in his class did, which is belivable to me. I just find it hard to belive that he only tried marijuana a couple of times and never did drugs again while in college in 1969-1973, and yet called himself a hippie and didn't give a shit about his grades. What could have possibly deterred him from marijuana? To me it's one of the greatest gifts known to mankind. I guess the main reason I'm so concerned is because it bothers me that he lied to me, something he promised he never did, and the fact that I would someday like the opportunity to smoke a joint with him when I get older, my first cousin did that with his dad, aka my dad's brother a couple years ago. Let me know what I should think, a response would be appreciated.

 

your dad has done a lot of drugs guranteed. roll up and eighth in a j, leave it somewhere he'll find it, wrap a ribbon around it to with a tag saying cheef on chong.

 

My mom was a major pot head before she left her first husband. She got a felony and she did some major hard drugs I'm sure, but she will only admit to "trying them once or twice." But she'll admit to the pot obviously. She even pointed out this field near her old place that they used to smoke in. She never wanted me to smoke pot growing up, but I always did, and I always got in trouble. I didn't do too great in school, I dropped out senior year, and later got my GED. Not really because of pot though just cause my mind wasn't in the right place.

Your dad won't admit it to you because he knows that you look up to him, and he doesn't want you to be like he was. All parent's want the best for their children. You're just going to have to wait a couple of years until your father knows that it's going to happen whether he likes it or not, and he'll have to deal with it. So I'm assuming that you're really not 20, and still in school. Otherwise you shouldn't care whether he cares or not.

When you're honest with him about you smoking, and hopefully not while your too young, he'll come clean with you, and maybe one day share a joint with ya.

My mom won't smoke now cause she says it made her way too paranoid. I tried making her do it once, but she wouldn't. It's best when their drinking to try to pry that kind of info out of them.

 

thanks for the replies you guys, I agree with both of you. if he didn't like marijuana, I'd bet he did acid alot, that was HUGE back then. and thanks for the advice jadesmom810, you're right, he probably thinks i'll just do pot because he did, even though he doesn't know I already do. I am a junior in highschool, so I will probably wait until i'm in college and home for winter/spring break to ask him about it.

 

I like this idea. ^^ It's so sweet.

Or simply roll one up one day when he's relaxing on the sofa, pull up a chair next to him, light it up and say: "dad, wanna smoke with me?" With a big heartfelt grin and let him have the first hit.
Of course you might get in trouble for this, but it's worth a try. Maybe somehow let him know you've smoked and try to feel him out a little before you try it. Or try it after you find that roach with a ribbon next to it it.

 

But yeah, if you are young it might be best to wait. Best of luck to ya.

 

Dad done drugs... I would definitely confront him about that and tell him how you feel as a result of his having done them. That way it isn't secretely somehow eating away at you and subcnsciously effecting your perception of the world.

 

In 1969 Hippies and pot were a minority sub-culture Then the big break-out happened and by 1973 Marajuana was sweeping the nation Big-time.

Remember these were the times before excasty, crack, meth.
When coke was not widespread, almost unknown.

The attitudes toward weed in '73 was fabulous. The climates of fear and represion had yet to arrive. No dogs, no roadblocks, no searches.

Everybody was doing weed in '73 even top honor roll students, dweebs,
jocks, goody-two-shoes, republicans, Everybody.

I often thought that coke had its big break out because the true freaks
wanted to stay a step ahead of the dweebs who they resented for "crashing" the party scene.

Nixon was being impeached, VP Spiro Agnew resigned in discrase. I got my draft card but we knew Vietnam was winding down. One day, the legal drinking age just dropped from 21 down to 18, just like that! The bars were full of HS students, Wild!

Talk to your Dad about those days, feel him out for some of those great stories

 

Yeah dude your dad was in college during the late 60's early 70's, he could have got high just on second hand smoke.

 

my mom did a lot of drugs when she was younger in the 70's, too.
she always told me she never liked getting high, and it wasn't her thing
she knows that i smoke, but i know she doesn't really support it all too much.

she sounds a lot like your dad.. i think he tells you that he didn't smoke a lot or he didn't like it because he doesn't want you to be like him or he knows the effects of what some drugs can do to ya. your parents just want what's best for you, and quite frankly, they don't think it's drugs

 

great points you guys, and yea even before my dad said he ever smoked pot, he told me about how when he was in his dorm every night at around 11 or so if you walked in the hallways you would hear jimi hendrix records going with the smell of pot in the air, so the idea of him second handing isn't too far off pharampunk . sounds like heaven to me... but anyway I have decided that when I am a freshman in college, and i'm off for winter break, I'll ask him if he feels like getting high one last time. i don't really want to surprise him by throwing a joint in his face, that sounds too fast for me. also by then i will have told him i smoke so the idea of me smoking won't seem so surprising, and he'l figure "he smokes anyway, what's the harm of doing it one last time". I plan on telling him i smoke when i'm a senior about halfway through the semester, by then i'll be acepted to college so it won't matter at all. thanks again you guys, you helped me out alot, I can't even explain how grateful I am. glad us stoners can help with family issues too =D

 

Obviously you aren't 21 if you say "when I am a freshman in college." You don't need to lie about your age when this site doesn't ban people for being under 18 even.

 

yea, i'm actually 17, i was high when i made my account i guess i clicked the wrong year, i don't actually remember making the account very well...

 

10 ppl out of 600 smoke pot? Thats how big my school was and i counted one day...i smoked with 150+ students in my school.thats a fuckin lot dude..My rents totally did the shit back in the day.It's in my blood i think.

 

lol same here.

 

basicly everyman in my family apart from my dad had big drinking problems, every female in my family is a hooked smoker of tobbaco.

i think they kinda just gave a blind eye to pot - oh well, some are proud to be the first guy in theyre family to go to college, im proud to be the first to do drugs

 

My mom used to smoke pot occasionally according to my dad, which she denies. My dad used to smoke pot and do acid but neither did anything since they have had me. My uncle, one of the nicest people ive ever met who died of emphazema and blood cancer used to do cocaine i know and im sure he smoked weed. like 5 of my cousins that i know of smokes weed and a couple of those do other drugs. My dad used to have a bad alcohol problem just like his mom and dad who kept him im bars all night as a kid. I have had a few pill addictions and done every drug from weed to acid to heroin, and so has my 16 year old sister.

 

lol

 

My dad smokes pot he lives with his dad he takes care of him. My grandpa is high 24/7 lol! My dad will toke up from time to time. Back in the day my dad use to sell pot and coke. I found this all out when i was 17. He used to be into prescription pills a lot like ambien which was kinda sad cuz we would come home and find him passed out on the driveway. Or at dinner time he would just be drooling and spacing out. Thank God he isnt into that any more!

 

in the 60s and 70s marijuana was not as widley accepted as it is nowadays. Anymore you can tell the stoner just by looking at them... and people are generally quite open about it. Whereas back in the day it was quite dangerous to be caught with it.