Moving too fast then trying to rewind, how often does it work out?

Just say you meet someone, things go fabulous for the first few weeks/months. Then all of the sudden one of you get scared and start trying to backpedal like crazy, and starts acting like a different person.

Its never worked out for me when that happens, just curious if it ever worked out for someone else?

 

Nop, what happened, happened and it can't bee changed no matter how hard you try.

 

Yeah, thats what I was thinking.

Just sucks when you are in something that feels right, and feel comfortable then one day all of the sudden everything seems to get turned upside down for no reason.

 

I just had that experience. Girl wanted a "proper date" and I was ready to get comfortable and spread my legs on her bed with dirty socks on; watch a flick.


I think that says something about not skipping steps. I'm keeping that in mind, from now on. Am I becoming a "friends first" kind of guy?

Jesis, who woulda thunk it?

 

Well, I have a different opinion when it comes to that, IMO its easier to move into 'relationship' mode when the physical stuff happens early on vs. being friends first for a long time. I suppose that does increase the likelyhood that they will push away later down the line but then you didn't waste a lot of your time wondering when they were going to 'let you in' so to speak. As long as you don't take them out only once and just invite them over for movies/cuddling on the couch all the time and make them think they are only there for sex.

I have dated people that wanted to 'take it slow' and 2 months down the line, we split, and it never got to the next level when I could have just spent that time with someone who was a bit more sure or ready to take the risk.

 

i think it is easier to move into a relationship when the initial attraction was physical! Being friends first is fine but when you finally do bring sex into the equation there is more chance for things to be awkward...

 

Yeah, I would say the former is more likely than the latter.

 

I understand that. I am a bit confused.

I've had hurtful experiences with women who suddenly decided to be strangers.

In the end I think if two people actually have the same goals and appreciation for one another, probably either approach is fine.

 

That is true, if its meant to happen, it will.

I find it amazing how much I learn about relationships as I get older.

Somehow, in my situation I seemed to have bridged the gap once again, hopefully this time for good but time will only tell.

 

Good for you. Congratulations!

I don't like the word "meant"/ I'd rather say, when two people are working along the same gravel path.