awkwerd silence in phone conversations

Im 15 and so is my girlfriend.We are both shy and We started talking on the phone but alot of the time there is awkwerd silence that can lasts up to 5minites =( I guess im just wondering what are some topics or things i can say to spark the conversation at these times. We've already talked about movies, food, school,pets ect. Any help would be greatly appreciated.

 

Interesting post, but damn! 5 minutes? Just kidding.

Uh, there is nothing wrong with silence per se. Actually, when you two are able to feel comfortable in silence you've accomplished something. But usually the bonding silences occur in person, not over the phone.

Conversation isn't what creates a bond between people. Shared experience is. It is important that both of you do things together.

Sometimes silences have to do with avoiding exposing an embarassing aspect of oneself. That which you think but are afraid to say can become a big white elephant in the room.

Patience and you'll do fine. I don't think it's a matter of suggesting topics or some kind of social gimmick. It sounds like you got something good going and are on the right track. Good luck

P.S. Just thought of a good topic to talk about with your girlfriend: Why the awkward silences? Seriously. Ask her!

 

Don't talk on the phone so damn much, I absolutely hate phones, I rarely use mine but I've managed to keep girls around as long as I want. Which isn't usually very long but that's beside the point.

Spend more time together.

 

Clap your hands and say "Akward Silence Breaker". If she doesnt laugh then hang up.

 

phones suck, i just use them to tell people im going to be late and to organise things.

why dont you ask her to go out somewhere instead of just making small talk ?

 

Phones do suck.

I like texting/e-mailing because I can do other shit and not feel tied down to the phone. If its a good conversation, or if I just wanted to hear someones voice, then thats different.

Actually just had a conversation with my g/f about it last night, I was tired and had a headache so I really didn't have too much to talk about. And then she said thats why she hates talking on the phone more than once every couple of days, and we wound up talking about how much talking on the phone sucks for a good 30 mins, lol, go figure.

I also once dated this girl that every time there was an awkward silence would say 'hi'. It cracked me up, and actually helped a lot.

 

silence could be a deeper problem on her end... I married that girl... the akward silence never goes away. 20+ yrs later we are divorcing!

 

there's always music. you could go online or turn on a radio station you like and talk about the music and lyrics, share favorites, etc. i dunno, this is a tough one for me to answer cuz i never seem to run out of things to talk about. :tongue:

 

yea dude go chill with her, she obviously wants to spend time with u. girls are fucking awsome to be around just be yourself

 

In the beginning of our relationship me and my guy did that a lot. It was a good silence breaker.

 

A lot of: Guess who this band is! Do you know?

 

Dude, this is going to sound lame, but plan your conversations at first.

If you're both shy and you started going out recently, you aren't yet comfortable with each other.

So what you do is before you call, make a list of things to talk about. and an Emergency topic or two just incase. Don't make it sound planned, just ask the question about the topic and do the rest yourself. It can't be a Yes or No question, those don't fly.

So when one topic is getting old, use the other. If you run out of topics, end it on a good note and say you have to split.

"Hey, I'm sorry baby but I got a few things to take care of. I'll see you later?"

You'll be surprised how well this works, and how good a good conversation can leave you feeling.