Does less sex make you want it more?

Hm...I was talking to a friend today and she mentioned that she witholds from her boyfriend on purpose, to keep him wanting it.

I, on the other hand, am always up for sex and I'm usually the one who gets things started. And so far my boyfriend, ah...hasn't exactly lost interest.

Wellll I've been advised to be more of a cocktease to spice things up. This seems stupid to me, especially since things don't need spicing up. They're fucking spicy.

Guys? Do you LIKE it when a girl witholds from you? I understand the whole thrill of the chase thing, but...come on.

 

I completely agree with you. Why play games? Once you start playing games, your whole relationship becomes a game and so does life in general. You have the right idea. Keep your relationship honest, and it'll stay spicy.

 

The friend better be careful because he may want it more and end up seeking someone more willing.

If both people understand "we dont have sex for a week to spice things up" yeah it can be a huge turn on. It's like seeing what you want right in front of you, but knowing you cant have it. It tends to make you want it more.

Personally the more sex I have, the more I want. When I am not getting sex (because of being tired, stress, etc) I just find other ways to take care of myself and stop expecting it so often from my husband.

 

Go too long without, and it's hard to get your groove back on.

I find that the more I get, the more I want.

 

I just give my boyfriend head because thats all he wants so im withholding on sex until he cant take it anymore and wants it really really bad. Alos im hoping if we dont have sex for a while and i just give head he'll want sex so bad that we will have it more than once a week. Does anyone think that would work or is there anything you can think of to make him want sex and not head all the time? and does anyone know why a guy would want head everyday instead of sex? I asked him if our sex was good and he said yes and then i asked him if there was anything wrong and he said no, so why would a guy just want head all the time and not sex? And i also asked if hes cheating and he swears hes not and i trust him completely just like he trusts me.

 

peroid?

 

Umm, maybe he wants it all the time because you're good at it and he knows you'll do it?
My husband wants it all the time, for the same reason. But that doesn't stop him from wanting sex, either.

I think holding off to make them want it more is a stupid idea... but maybe that's just my opinion. We do it every day, at least once, and he wants MORE most of the time, we just don't have the time. We've been together for 2½ years and haven't slowed down at all with how often we do it/want it, etc. And, like you said, being the one who usually gets things started - that's exactly what my husband likes, I know he wants it all the time, he wants me to show that I do, too.
I just don't see any reason to hold off and make him wait, that would probably make him think I wasn't attracted to him or interested any more.

 

Casie, maybe start him off with head, and when he gets really into it, move on top of him.

 

I guess i just dont think its fair that he always gets pleasured but then when i want to get pleasured he makes it a big deal so then i just end up giving him head so i dont have to listen to him bitch. Im a very horny girl, we used to do it like 5 times a day and now we do it once a week. Thats a big change for me if you think about it. I knwo im being a lil slefish but a girl needs pleasure to, im not going to be his sex slave for the rest of my life with him. Thanks for the advice though, i get what your saying.

 

I would but i know that if i started moving on top of him he would tell me no or say something like maybe tomorrow i just want head. If he wanted sex he would tell me, thats why im giving him head all the time, he just doesnt want sex.

 

Well then, stop giving it to him.
There's a difference between holding out because you think they'll want it more, and not doing it because you get NOTHING in return.
Next time you want it and he throws a fit, just go "Fine, you're right, I don't want to be doing this either." and completely stop. See how he reacts then.

 

Yeah, tell him he can wank it. You're not his own personal crank shaft. Oral sex is supposed to be an act of love that's reciprocated...I couldn't be with a guy who was more concerned with his own pleasure than mine. It shouldn't be that way.

 

I have had sex witholded from me as a weapon, and as a cock tease. Quite frankly I'm not fond of either. a little bit of teasing is ok, but if ya both wanna fuck like crazed sexed animals, why stop the sex train??

Wooo hoo my 50th post I can pm now

 

No its not fair that he allways get pleasured. and you get nothin out of the deal. I think you need to ask him bluntly why he just wants head. How long has this been going on? and no your not being selfish, he is being very selfish!

 

dude she freaking orgasms when she gives me head. she just was mad at me that day so dont worry its not a big deal lol she does get pleasure

and the reason we used to have sex so much is I didnt work as much or go to school and it was summer time. she dosent work or anything so im more tired most of the time.

Ive told her multiple times that I dont want head but she goes down anyways because she gets horny and wants too. Trust me I dont even ask her, she asks me.

 

well as a guy, i cant really say that i'd enjoy it if my gf deliberatly didn't wana have sex. i mean i can understand that shes might not be up for it, mayeb she'd be sick or having her period, but whenever she is up for it, we both get our fill (Pun not intended) and it doesnt make it any less exciting or great.

 

mmm...well we fucked like rabbits when we first started dating, and then it slowed down a bit, which is normal I guess. His sex drive is lower than mine. I've tried a few things, just wanted to know if cockteasing really worked before I took my friend's advice.

Its not like I'm not getting any, and its amazing sex...just wish he'd ask for it more. I feel like I have to beg, and sometimes that we're having sex to shut me up more than for the joy of having sex. I don't remember the last time he initiated sex.

 

I would say probably.

 

I would have to say no to that.
it is the other way with me the more i get the more i want it.

 

If he hasnt initiated for a while Knotdirty just stop initiating as much and wait for him to, probably wont take long. Dont beg, make him beg, not saying dont give it him just mean when he does initiate it tease him for a while first so he really wants it XD i want it same amount no matter how much i get it...