I personally can say I do not like my step dad one bit, he is a very jealous person, also obese, lazy, and conceited. I am not sure whether this is a big deal or not. But I got a beautiful girlfriend, and he often tries to try and make himself seem funny or smart by trying to get on me about stuff. He is also a photographer, he has been saying oh your girlfriend really is photogenic and is natural at taking pictures. I took some pictures with a new camera he got me of her, and he went through the pictures just to give me feedback. Also to add I think he had been drinking a little bit, then as he stumbles across a picture I took he says "Natalie (my girlfriend), looks really busty in that picture", I replied "...yeah", then he replies "but don't tell her I said that". Well I'm sorry but I really tell my girlfriend everything. Keep in mind I am 18 she is about to turn 17 in 2 months. I think a 44 year old step dad to make that remark is inappropriate and it raises a bit of himself to the surface I don't want to see. Sickening, but I want to tell my girlfriend but I don't want her to feel awkward around him by saying that? Am I making a big deal out of it? Or am I underreacting and should be telling her? I need some opinions.
Yes, it is inappropriate for him to be saying things like that about your girlfriend. He may be a jerk, but I think he is trying to be friendly to the adult son of his new(?) wife. He may be trying to approach you as a "buddy" rather than as a father. (He's not good at it.) It might be best to assume that he is socially clumbsy rather than maliscious. You may change your mind in the future, but for the moment, thinking well (or at least not very badly) of your mom's husband can't be too big a mistake. Oh yeah, also, I don't think you need to share this with your girlfriend.
Yeah, I am not planning to tell her as much as i'd like to. He has been with my mom second husband for about 12-14 years? It's just sickening for someone I don't even like in the first place to be making comments about someone who is 16 and turning 17 soon. My girlfriend doesn't like him either she thinks he's a jerk who is jealous and conceited.
<cough> You're 19, she's 16... Aside from what your step-dad said, I think most people hope that your relationship with her is different from most 19 yr.old boyfriend/16 yr.old girlfriend relationships.
I am not 19, that's a typo in my profile. I am 18 and have been going out with her since I was 17/ she was 16. We are 1 year and 10 months apart.
you can change your profile information btw, under user control panel somewhere. anyway. it was a bit inappropriate of him, assuming you two dont ahve the buddy buddy joke-about-sex relationship taht some folks do (*cough*like my mom and i sometimes do*cough*). he probably didnt mean any harm by it... but id still avoid situations where those two are left alone together
That was not called for esp since shes 16 going on 17. Personally i'd take your gf somewhere where he isn't that way he doesn't make inappropiate comments. If he has a wife he should be using them with her not your gf. Furthermore you just never know what he can pull next. I'll give you an example. My friend my yrs ago no name needed Her dad was married for yrs . When i went to go to her place to see her her dad would say to me ooohhh theres the sexy girly in front of his wife. i was 17. I was thinner back than. Because i'm busty myself, h'd stare and say how are you guys doing ?? Instead of how are you doing? I was at a bus stop one time and he gave me a ride to school but that was te last time because i didn't want him to get sexual with me ehhh honey yah sexy my darling. He may have not wanted it to sound like it did ... But to women it sounds totally different.
Generally speaking, most stepdads are assholes. But I think you might be overeacting here. He was critiquing photographs. If one of the pics happened to emphasize your girlfriend's bosom, it doesn't seem that stating the obvious necessarily makes him a potential rapist. But lest your girlfriend also tends to go over the top with minimal provocation, I wouldn't mention it. Sleeping dogs and all that.
appreciating a beautiful girl is not harmful, but talking about it is icky, especially with his young stepson. i think he's tryin to bond over that ageless of connections: females. but he's failing badly. i don't think he's necessarily doing anything gross or unnatural, he's just kinda sucky.
