First of all, by accepting that one has a problem. Then, by listening to the advice given by those who know what one does wrong, and then y finding the inner strength to correct oneself, to analyse one's mistakes.
Are you giving or recieving? Can't give what you don't have yourself. Healing come from positive thought. And most important, forgiveness of self. x
uummm... eeerrr... uuuhhh... either i'm stupid, or your just not being descriptive for some odd reason. when i said "healing from what" i mean what kind of mental illness. Etc. depression, bi-polar, low self esteem, ocd.... idk... mental illnesses..... whatever that may be... you just saying "past hurts" tells me... nothing! unless... you dont have a mental illness and... just wants advice dealing with something else... idk... explain yourself.
For me healing has involved a good therapist and a good support system. Friends and family who are willing to hold me up when I think I'm going to fall. Healing takes time and the others are right...it starts from within. It's painful but worth the hurt. It requires you to look at what caused you the problem you're now facing in an intimate way. For me that was abuse I recieved as a child and teen. I recovered memories I had blocked and in some ways relived what had happened to me. After that, the healing began and I feel better about myself now because of it. Each person is different. Healing takes time though. I wish you the best.
That sounds like a good question to ask a therapist. A lot of people need counseling...not because there is any thing wrong with them, any more than someone who broke an arm or a leg and needs to see a doctor to have it heal properly. We humans get injured psychologically and it isn't a case of it just being "all in your head" and something you can fix yourself.
