Is he Gay? Why would he kiss me? Does he like me?

My friend, who is a boy, knew I was gay. We are both 17. We went to a party and we made-out during a game of spin the bottle. We then went to his house to sleep and he said we should sleep in the same bed. We talked for about 2 hours when I realized his arm was under my head and his hand on my hip. I told him I was glad I kissed him tonight and he told me he thinks he likes boys, and does it make him bi. He then pulls me into him and spoon before kissing and playing for about 30 min or so. Keep in mind that he started all of this. But now he is grabbing my butt at school and comes up behind me and plays with my earlobes and yet telling everyone he is straight. He flirts with girls at school a lot. I think I can tell he is being fake with them, but it still hurts me. At a movie we went to go see he would grab my thigh, hand, and arm when leaning in to whisper in my ear, he would make sure that he would touch his lips or nose to my ear. I told him how I felt he is leading me on. He said "sorry I am leading you on, I’m just a flirty person” I told him he can’t take back the fact he told me he thinks he is bi. And he asked if I like him more than a friend, I replied by telling him that with the way he talks and treats me it makes me feel that way sometime. Then he said "but if I did like boys I would totally do you." I said " point made, look at your last comment." he said "but it’s the truth" he also said he values my friendship doesn't want it to be awkward. He still will rub my neck, ears, and sometimes grab my butt at school knowing how I feel about him. I want a relationship. Does he like me or not? Am i making this up? Am I misinterpreting everything?



Sometimes he texts me at night telling me his is naked in bed.



He will also text me hours after our last conversation saying G'night. And boys don't normally do that.



After I told him how I felt the next day he asked to move into my locker and be my locker partner, I said it was okay. And then 20 min later he says never mind.



I feel like out of the two of us I am thinking about what we did and I have more feelings for him, but I can't get his true feelings out.





Either he is still leading me on, is really blind to what he is doing, or really does like me...

the the other night he sent me a text saying "i am about to crah...i will talk to you tomorow, okay cute stuff?" but the next day i met up with one of my friends who is also friends with him.. and he sent her the same message as me... he had been sorta with her a few months before the me and him thing happend and we think he sent it to her so he could think...{i am not gay, i sent it to a girl too} and later that night she texted him saying "i know you and "bill" have something, he wont tell me anything and i know you won;t tell the truth either"
then he said "have something?"
she said "you know what i mean!"
and then he said "come on... you know i dont like boys"
and she said "i can tell you have feelings for him by the way you act arround him. its okay"

and then he got really defensive and saying "yah we kissed but we are jsut really close friends."

and a few hours later he texted her saying "there are too many cute girls like you out there for me to like boys"

that shows that he was thinking about the whole situation for a long time...

(also he texted me today and at the end but the word "bro", it was wierd.)


i think he became my friend for a reason, we had known eachother for a while but not like this.

because of him i felt comfortable with myself to tell ALL of my friends and my sister. and i really thank him for that, even though he doesn't know how much he helped.


Thanks for any advice… J

 

I think he's gay or bi, but he's in major denial. You don't want to be his experiment, he's just going to hurt you. It doesn't seem like he's going to come to terms with this for awhile, and in the meantime your feelings are at stake. He needs to be more respectful to you. And if he's not going to be, you need to draw the line. I'm not saying you shouldn't be friends with him anymore, I know that would hurt both of you, but you have to demand respect from him. He either wants a relationship or a friendship, not something in between. If he really cares about you he'll make a choice rather than string you along.
Good luck, I hope everything works out.

 

honestly i do anything for that. ive never even felt a mans touch.. im working on it though.