Spanking Help

I am a 14 year old girl and live with my 23 year old brother and sister who are twins and my 20 year old brother. I just moved in with them and they wanted me to come up with the rules on spanking! They said they are going to spank me as punishment and if I can come up with fair rules they will be kept. Here are the catigories please help me and be honest!

Why to be spanked: (lying cheating, ect.)

Who to spank me: (any of them, sister only, ect.)

With what: (hand, belt, ect.)

Position: (over knee, over chair, ect.)

Wearing: ( Fully Clothed, bare butt, ect.)

Where at: ( In room only, anywhere, ect.)

Autiance: ( Only me and spanker, who ever is around, ect)

Other: ( Things I forgot, important info, how is changes form diffrent person, ect)


I can't get this off my mind I need the rules by next Saturday!
Thanks!

 

youre 14, they have no right to spank you or hit you.

 

Whatever the hell you decide (wtf?)...dont let your brothers spank you. Spanking is abnormal over the age of 12....wtf?

 

Are they serious? At your age, spanking is more sexual than a punishment. Personally, if I had an older brother who wanted to "spank" me, I would find another place to live. If he actually did it, I would probably file sexual abuse charges, depending on the situation. Especially if he insisted on spanking bare assed. That's not right.

Peace and love

 

If CAS found out they would fined BIG timeDO NOT ALLOW them to hit you whatsoever . its your body!!! but whatever you do behave as a child because you CAN as a mature child talk things over with your siblings instead of hitting or spankings. If your afraid look the child helpines up. in your area i'm sure they can assist you if they were ever something very serious going on.

 

ok?

 

lilangel you seem somewhat okay with this, they shouldn't spank you at all

 

What the fuck? Do not let them spank you. And I agree with the other posters, spanking at your age is SEXUAL. Don't let your brothers spank you! Especially not bare-assed. Tell them to shove it.
Where are your parents?

 

I'm a mom and have to say that 14 is too old for a spanking. It would be reasonable to have consequences like grounding, no tv, etc. but not spanking. Your list should have things like "Came in past curfew.....grounded for a week" not spanking.

I take it your siblings do not have children of their own....their ignorance of parenting is showing. If they are parents....wow!

 

I could understand rules and I could understand your sister saying she would kick your ass but spanking?? and to even put bare ass in there your all freaks!

 

dude that's def. sexual. Spanking is used on children who are too young to "reason with" etc, not a growing woman.

FUCK THAT. Though I imagine standing up to them won't work to well. Thoughts go out to you that things get worked out. Any other place you can live?

 

I think that she is a troll ... this was her first (and last post)

 

I was having similar thoughts....

 

Spanking in any way is wrong!!!
I was spanked when I was younger and I greatly resent my father for it! It has damaged our relationship beyond repair, because when you are being spanked, there is no relationship, rather there is some form of domination. If you are doing something wrong, another should be able to convince you of this and see the error of your ways. If that is not possible then the other person is wrong, knows it already and is probably subconciously taking out frustration on you.

Also, it engenders a "my way or the highway" mindset in the spanker and tends to make the spankee more submissive (at least in the presence of the spanker).

Not good if you value any kind of relationship.

Treat others like you would like to be treated, etc. Those sayings are not just sayings for a reason. It is very good advice!

 

feh, ive gotten spanked as a child and i have no problems. when i was very young, and probably a half dozen times at the most, but still
if its overused, yes its damaging. if its done rarely and only as necessary, no problemo

 

Every Family is different allynom

 

agreed, but why would you single me out for that comment when zeorin said all spanking is bad in every family (essentially), whereas i said that yes in excess its bad, in moderation/only as necessary it does little to no harm (admittedly for most not all, i didnt add taht caveat in originally)

 

I agree. I was spanked and I turned out okay and have a good relationship with my parents. The problem is that some parents refuse to spank, but do not offer other forms of discipline (grounding, loss of privileges, etc).

Children want and need discipline and boundaries. It teaches them how to function in the real world. If children are not disciplined how can they possibly understand that when you show up late for work you get reprimanded or fired? They can't and don't.

As parents it is our "job" to raise a productive member of society. By letting them have free rein future generations are being destroyed. The real world is not a kind place, so coddling children is more harmful than helpful. Love the children, and guide them with a firm, but gentle hand.

 

lol... i can't believe you guys didn't spot that as a troll a million miles away... come on. it's too sexual.