guy not being able to get it/keep it up??

So me and this guy get along perfect, we mess around its really hot.. but like.. I dont know when it comes time to actually have sex it just deflates... he always initiates all actions and the same thing happens everytime.. he says its not me and that i'm great its just he's lost his sex drive in the last two weeks.. and he doesnt know whats wrong. He's 22, is this normal???

 

Yes. He has a psychological problem, or he is gay. I doubt he has a physical reason for not maintaining a hard dick. Has he tried sex with men? Perhaps that is his interest, and he tries to please you by foreplay. Or, he has a religious or social hang-up of some kind. He ought to see a sex counselor, if such things exists, and they probably do, or a shrink of some kind. He ought not go through life unable to get the job done.

Do you have a girl friend who might try to get him to fuck her? I doubt you are the problem, but in this world no one ever knows this stuff.

Have you made it with other guys?

 

Why do so many people assume that people are gay if they can't get it up or if hey don't enjoy sex? There a huge amounts of psychological problems that can come along with sex. In the case, I'd say it's nerves.

 

Have you had successful sexual intercourse previously? If so, it is probably "performance anxiety", which will go away once he has another success or two.

 

I love you Cutted, thanks for backing up my point.

 

Yes, of course I have managed in the past, many times easy. I have no problems and most guys i have sex with end up finishing too soon the first couple times.
No, me and this guy have not yet succesfully had sex. But I'm hoping it is some kind of performance anxiety thing.

 

Sounds like performance anxiety to me too. The best thing for that is open communication. He needs re-assurance that you won't hold it against him if he fails to perform.


Also, try going slow, and being affectionate. Have you guys simply cuddled up naked in bed?

 

It's possible he's just not horny.

I've often been fooling around with a girl, I'd get right into it and everything, but when the time came that she wanted to give me some attention, I just wasn't in the mood. xD Don't get me wrong, when I am in the mood look out <_<'

There's just those few times that you're just not in the mood for sex, even if you're givin' some sweet lickings ^^

 

Maybe he is a virgin.. That happened to the dick.. when we met back in HS we were messin round, and he couldnt do the do.. then after about two or three tries, I just took over. got him on his back, got him nice and hard and did what I do best.. lasted maybe all of three minutes.. come to find out a few weeks and a few hundred fuck sessions that he was a virgin.. just a couple days ago, he said that was the most embarrasing day of his life cause he had no idea what to do.. lol

 

Yeah i was thinking the same thing when reading the poster above you.

 

Okay I am just throwing this out there. There are certain drugs both legal and illegal that can cause a man to not be able to preform well.

I am not a doctor so I will not go into all of them. But I am a man and there is common recreational drugs that do affect sex.

Any chance he is using or taking something?

 

well, 22 is very young to start having Erectile Dysfunction (ED) but have you tried Viagra/Cialis/ Levitra? I starting getting ED around age 25-26 and became almost completly impotent by age 36. Last year I got a prescription for Levitra and with the health insurance the costs are not that bad but costs me $5 a pill. Anyway, the first time was a monster hard on like I had not had since high school !! After that it was not that insane but still very good. Go to a doctor and don't be shy to ask for a prescription.

ED is much more than a mental or emotional condition. It is a piece of meat and blood flow can be restricted by high cholesteral, being overweight or being in poor health.

 

I was talking to the dick bout this, and he said that it could also be high blood pressure.. it happened to him apparently.. thankfully he got it under control..

 

"I was talking to the dick bout this,"

what does this mean? "dick" or "Doctor"?

 

its not you, for real... some guys just need to get to know the girls their with... men arent nearly as simple as the media and society make them out to be. men have all the same emotions women do, we are just better equipped to superficially ignore them.

 

hahaha no, i refer to the guy im fucking as The Dick.. hes not my boyfriend, not my fuck buddy cause were not friends.. no point in naming names.. theyre all just dicks.. not in a bad way tho..

 

I'm from Houston also, but don't live there anymore. I was in 10th grade when you were born. Where did you go to HS?