my missus left to overseas for 7mths with her best freind and living with a freind and his family. its been 3 mths since she's gone now. just wanna know experiance of other ppl and such. so far its goin ok i guess.. talk online, email and txtin eachother. but i just dont get much affection. feelin a bit unloved, lonely and sad? worried but what happen when she get back cause doesnt seem like she loves me as much as before? i've only known bad experiances from freinds. we are still together tho .. its been a 3 year relationship and counting
Depends on how long you have been together before she left...Since it was 3 years I assume you've been through some hard times already and you love each other very much....If you used to have good and mature relationship it might work, but you just have to work hard and make some compromises......Good luck.....
yea long distance relationships are scary to me...too much room for lonlieness which can lead to other problems...
well my girlfriend return from her trip. i picked her up from the airport but something was different. didnt seem tooo thrilled to see me. anyway during that day i felt pretty shit cause my girlfreind wasnt givin me any attention. the day later she arrived back i told her how i felt and the way she was. she said we need to talk bout that. next day i picked her up from the shops and we went to a park to talk. gut instinct was tellin me its bad... was the most akward drive to the park. we got talking and what has happen in that time apart.. catchin up and stuff. she broke up with me.. i took it quite well actaully to her and my surprise. she didnt cheat on me or anything just doesnt love me anymore.. didnt want a relationship anymore. she wanted to be just free... it was something she needed to do herself to be a stronger person.. which i repected that and trusted in her descision. from a 3 year relationship may not be long as some but we both changed eachothers lives and went through some really rough and good times. i hate her cause i waited for so long for affection and just bf/gf stuff.. hanging out.. having dates and.. well u know the rest.. couple stuff.. that really pissed me off. but she said she preferred doin face to face then across the world which i guess it better. i kinda had a feeling when she left it would turn out bad.. had fights bout it in the past and she denied it.. showed her wrong lol. since i had a feelin it would. we are best friends now.. hanging out.. and god she so hott *drools* first time going out was weird cause i was so use to holding her hand or waist or just her stuff. its been... few weeks now since the break up and im feelin lonely but our friendship is good.. healing really quick. she planning to travel again a few times more in the couple of years coming and maybe be ready to settle down after. she's not that type to go searching for another guy or anything soon but it takes alot of trust for her to get a guy into her life. especially her family accepting the bf. now i'm already in that zone and they like me and all. im part of the family. i dunno if i should.. wait? not really the word i was looking for but along that line. live my life and when she ready i'll be there hoping to be that guy. i know the saying its just a experiance to make u stronger and you might find another but im that type of guy who just doesnt like sharing myself to many girls, if u get my drift. she had mention if we crossed again in the future their might be something for us or not.. but dont get ur hopes up. atm my gut instinct is sayin we'll get back at some point.. it always seems to be right before but i never went with it.. so this time i am but just confused. just wanna know some thoughts you guys have and just guidance i suppose. if their anything i miss that might help.. let me know. thanks.
they do work i got married ... from a ldr online relationship. we dated a long time and it did work. if you think its going to fail it will if you think it will work it will I've been with my husband 5 years and 2 yrs married. so never say never
I'd say you're wasting your time. She chose to leave you for seven months, and plans more trips alone? Yeah, you appear to be pretty low on her list. This was less a long-distance relationship than it was a separation, and I don't know of ANY separations that weren't simply precursors to breakups. (I've been in a long-distance relationship for several years, but we started out that way.)
wow. that's pretty shitty. I am in a ldr myself (not for long tho, moving to be with him Jan 14th!!, i'm very excited). Let me just tell you from a girl's point of view, if she's planning all these trips without you, then you definitely are not a concern of hers anymore, it's shitty but these things happen. move on, date, live, keep your head up and good luck.
They work, but you have to trust the person 100%. And both parties have to make a lot of effort...it's really really hard, but its totally worth it. It sounds like she's found her own way. Just live your life, that's all you can do. If another relationship happens, it happens.
Long distance relationships can work if they both put some effort in it!...My sister is with her boyfriend for 2.5 years now and he's studying in a city far away from ours...He needs 3h to come to our town but he still does it every weekend for last 1.5 years...They both make compromises and work on their relationship and here they are now after 2.5 years, still having great thing between them....
Long distance relationships can work out definately. I believe the saying 'distance makes the heart grow fonder' really does apply. It hasn't been easy the whole time, we have broken up a few times because of the distance, however we realised how much we needed eachother after a couple of days and got back together My bf and I have been together now for 3 years and our relationship only gets stronger, we have lived together a lot and also lived seperately sometimes for 2 weeks and also 2-3 months apart, We both know there is noone better out there for eachother thats why we have waited for eachother, we talk every night on the phone and by having a long distance relationship we have come to know that we are meant for eachother. Whenever we get back together after a long time away from eachother the feeling is even greater.
hmmm.. we're kinda having that going on sorta.. well at her end of the view that she is realizing the difference now. the gap without me being there when she's just bored at home cause we usually just games ps2, wii, nintendo ds or watch movies. as i said before we're pretty close now and may seems unsual for couples to splits up and just get along well after a short period.. but we really are.. besides that im still in love her, she knows obviously. i kinda get the feeling she does too? one night we talked about our feelings and our thoughts about everything thats going on... secrets and stuff. anyway we got on the topic of us. i told her that i believe that we will get back together at some point in the future.. just a feeling that i feel confident about.. i dont know why but its a weird feeling... it might be cause i love her and im just lyin to myself but to me i dont think i am. her reply to it sounded that there was possibility but even if there was or wasnt and she did felt that way again she wouldnt because of her pride. she has lots of pride and its hard to break down. in simply terms she'll feel like a idiot to go back in a relationship with me. any input on that? atm she's confusing me too and im stressin lol.. i dont know if she's teasing me cause she feels something for me but making it sounds like she not like joking around.she isnt that type to mess with my feelings or anything. but for example: facebook if anyone has heard of it? and you can change ur relationship status. one point it was 'in a relationship'. after the break up it was 'complicated' then 'single'. now its back to 'complicated'. sometimes i wonder if she just has a the travel bug cause she's having depression but her life... and now that seeing that she's back in the real world... just work and save routine. i stare at her alot lol.. and she's like what u starin at hhmmm.. she stares back and we stare into eachother eyes for like seconds.. and we just smile away from it.. does that count for anything lol. but im lyin low with all this.. not putting my hopes up or anything but yea.. jus seeking advice i suppose or the mind of a female =P
