14 and almost 18

ok, there is this dude I really really like and i'm 14 and he's 17.

I don't know if he likes me back,doubt it, but what do you think of a 14 year old dating a 17 year old?

 

i can't judge, i dated a 23 year old at 15, but that doesn't mean it was a good idea. i dont know the guy, but i can't see it ending well.

most boys that age are only interested in sex. you may think he's different than all those other guys, but trust me, guys will say anything to get in your pants.

 

Well when I was 15 I had a two year relationship with a guy who was 18 at the time but turned 19 after two months of being together.
The exact age difference was 3.5 years; pretty similair to your situation. Age was never the problem though; we had other differences that made us part ways. I think 4 years sin't a huge difference, and I think its very well possible.

 

girl if you like him and if he likes you gret but you have to try to have him if you like him so don't wait go for him

 

i'm like the biggest chicken shit there is
I can't ask him out

+ i always have to ask the guy out and I'm tired of doing that

 

Wait till your 16 . your 14. your education is way more important than a guy wanting to get in your pants

 

You realize as soon as he turns 18 you become jail bait.

I did not make the rules. But that is something to think about.

 

Well, seeing as my selfestem level is about a 4 [one a lowest, ten as highest], i don't really feel give a shit if he uses me. The fact that I could get a guy a million times out of my leage would just make me happy

 

Are you sure that your self esteem will rise after he uses you? I just want you to ask yourself if allowing yourself to be used is really going to be a big help with your confidence. If you guys got together because you both were really into each other, that's one thing - that may help. But what you're suggesting is that even if he's not that into you he'll be free to use you for his pleasure. Not sure how you can gain confidence in yourself that way.

 

That is so sad. You are a beautiful girl and you are willing to let yourself get used. I feel so bad for you. I wish I could tell you and make you understand that you are a special person and you do not deserve to do this to yourself.

 

Really is very sad... My fiance sorta went the route you seem to be thinking of when she was your age. She still really gets upset at the memories of some of the stuff that happend as a result of her getting with older guys because of self esteem issues...and the one thing she always says she wishes people would teach in sex-ed. early on is the psychological effects of having sex as a young girl, and the fact that once you give it away you can never take it back or erase the memories you're guaranteed to regret.

Just be careful sweety, he might be the right guy for you, but you're really young...and that's not a bad thing... be a kid and have some fun the old fashioned way. It's not worth the tears in the long run. You've got plenty of time to meet a gentlemen (that happens to be great in bed)...and despite what people tell you...they do exist.

On a side note, judging from your picture you're a very pretty girl... you have every reason to respect and be proud of yourself. I think, and i'm a guy too, that one of the most beautiful things in a women is self-respect.

Good Luck...

~Amadeo
www.myspace.com/thevagabondtroubadour

 

A lot of girls your age have this mentality. A lot of girls period, actually. I started dating pretty late, but I let guys use me because I was just happy for some attention. Now I will not date at all unless we have been close friends for a while and I know that we are in it for more than sex.

You gotta have some respect for yourself and wait for somebody special. What is your relationship to this guy?

 

If you guys are close and you're friends, then I think it would be okay if you find out he likes you mutually, since you are both still in highschool.

Just don't let any guy use you or make you do things you don't want to just so they will like you. It's not worth it.

 

:agree:

 

Actually he dropped out because he had to go to rehab, but now hes all better ,but i don't know when hes coming back.

And I'm not really looking for a long time thing, if it happens, it happens, but if it don't, it dont. He just really makes me happy to be around and i think that i deserve some happiness with all the shit going on around me.

I'm trying to help repare one of my friends relastionships, I'm dealing with the loss of a friend, and I'm always the one to watch after my friends relationships and make sure things are good with everyone. I wanna be happy and he makes me happy

 

I consider him a friend, but iono what he thinks

 

You hang out sometimes?

 

so wait him to ask you and you may never have him, you want him you should go for him. Abouth your fear you should defeat it because you don't need it go for him I'm telling you you have my backing if you want my help you have it.

 

Girl whach what you are doing, don't do anything stupid be careful,you're in the ages you can do somethings you'll regreat later or I did,I smoked weed now I regreat and don't smoke and so on please for youron good

 

Love the people that assume if the guy is interested in you its only for a peice of ass, what a joke. The guy might really think the world of her and never ask for anything until a much later time in life. Maybe he would want that strong bond before physical pleasures who knows. Judge the guy before she even winks at him and her him.

Okay as for age, look if he first asks you out, you accept, he treats you right, ect then great. I would not suggest allowing him him to go too far but thats the dad in me.

If you feel your able to control things then great, dont let anyone con you into doing anything that your first gut instinct tells you to not do. If a person says "if ya dont then" shit that fucker off out of your life and fast.

YOu are 14 and have a life, make choices that you feel are right for you, be informed and trust yourself.

If you do end up with him and he tries to hurt ya then you can come out here and we all can meet him in a dark alley, beat him to death, chipper shred his remains and feed him to the crabs.