Questioning myself out loud

I have been looking back at past serious relationships and it seems I have only ended up in serious relationships if I sleep with a girl the first night I meet her.

If I do not sleep with a her on the first night it never develops into a serious relationship, ever. If I do it sleep with her it usually does get serious.

I am trying to do some reflection of my life here. I am not sure what I am asking here. But it is obvious to me this is important or I would not be pondering this.

Any insights? How twisted is that?

What I think I need is the right questions to ask myself.

WTF would Dr Phil say?

To bad I never watch his show.

 

Trust... hmmmm

 

whoa, Id never heard of that.. its like to opposite of what most guys would do.. if they sleep with ya on the first date, theyre too easy and therefore not future wife material.. thats weird.. i think that you look for a relationship with every girl you date.. you dont want to just see diffrent people, you want to jump in with both feet and just go from date to relationship.. how's that workin out for ya? do these relationships last long? do they go well, or turn into disasters? now, you know me from the forum we were at, if you read anything in the sex forum that Im all for sex without strings, but it seems yow make srtings out of nothing.. or want to anyway.. peace- Hilder

 

Well it is not like I am looking for a relationship or need one. It is also not like a am not willing to wait to have sex. I am willing to wait.

But it just always happens that way.

Even if I have no intention of wanting a relationship with that person. It just happens.

My relationships in the past have always been long term. My last one lasted several years and ended in disaster. The others have lasted a year or so.

I wouldn't be posting this if I knew there was not a problem. In fact I am avoiding all contact with girls until I figure this one out.

I mean if they want to hang out and have sex all the time, I am not going to tell them to get out of my house.

Perhaps I have a hard time saying no or get lost to someone.