in my experience, ive found that my compatibility level with those who also habitate the same general region is essentially nonexistent. the thing is, im not looking for sex (primarily), im looking for a girl who is truly compatilble with me because it would make whatever love we'd be making only THAT much better. I find it very difficult to communicate with cats who have no idea about my lifestyle. my family moved to suburban NJ when i was entering high school to raise my 2 younger brothers in an environment where they wouldnt get beat up everyday (which i experienced all throughout 3-7th grade). The kids coming out of this town are run-of-the-mill, average, mall shopping, trendoid, money loving, and overall BLIND. They have no idea of the spiritual facets behind my dreadlocks, they have no idea that biodiesel fuels exist, they love eating meat and are arrogant and rude about it to me (when i was in high school), they cant understand the power and magic behind music that doesnt suck. They obsess with physical appearance, no joke these girls go tanning like 4 times a week, and you can see the cancer building in their skin. i had a girlfriend in high school who was a reformed trendoid after hangin out with me for a while, we spent almost 2 years together. through the ups and downs, i love the girl, but there is always that feeling that the ups and downs were about such trivial things. Im as nonconfrontational as i can be, so our disagreements seemed completely out of place. my epiphany is that im completely removed from my element. you dont see drealocks for a 20 mile radius here. no one to help me rally for the end of the war, just these average republican suits with "support our troops" donned all over their lawns and sport utility vehicles. This atmosphere spawns a demeanor thats repulsive, selfish, ignorant. This is a town where people compete with each other, but pretend that theyre not. they pretend their lives are magnificent with all of their "things" and gym memberships and new cars. No one is being real here. at least not to me, and im as real as i can be. The friends ive made out of this town, who ive hung out with all throughout highschool, rarely call me anymore and wouldnt extend half the hospitality of a friend i met on tour, and hung out with significantly less. the kids who call themselves hippies are cold and sarcastic and justify it by calling it their expression of endearment. Is it just me or should endearment not hurt peoples feelings? i just feel flustered about this, ive been doing alot of thinking lately because ive had the worst possible summer ever. ive just noticed that i could really use some love. and i feel like its impossible here. i need to get out, but i have no idea where to go. anyone who wants to IM me please do, i always enjoy new friends. im trying to get into college for next year but i dont know some good liberal schools where ill be exposed to my element. send all your opinions, ideas, knowledge, and love. thanks for reading my rambles. -a idle phish kid. (i need some tour)
Love from Western MA. You should move to Vermont, LOL! I want to move to Vermont. Where did you live before you moved to where you are now? I always lived in a suburbia type nightmare world as a kid, so I didn't have much to compare it to until I moved to another school. Perhaps you were put there for a reason. Perhaps you are meant to find people like me who need to see that there is a place in the world for them where they might just fit
i actually tried to move to vermont. that didnt work out sadly. and i came from staten island NYC. definately not suburbia.
Awww... hugs here from Delaware. Come over the bridge sometime and we can chill. There are plenty of groovy folks over here, you just got to know where to look. And not be as shy as I am, because I'm pretty much afraid to strike up a conversation with most people LOL yeah I know hard to believe huh. I noticed you are 18. Any plans for college? You might consider going someplace out west or finding a school with more free thinking people such as yourself. Unfortunately, it has been my experience that you will run into the people you describe in your town everywhere. You can't get away from them, I've tried. It sucks. Good Luck sweetie. Find me if you want to come hang in DE.
your situation sound a lot like mine right now, but try not to let it get to you. college would definatly be a good idea, but be careful where you go, or you'll run into the same situation when you get there. or you could be a nomad for a while, thats what im gonna do, you know see where you end up. good luck
Man im sorry you have to live in Jersey. I hate everyone i meet from there, they are all rich pricks. Also the state is so dirty they need to clean that shit up. Good luck on finding a tour now with Phish
Yeah jahpiper we are definately in the same situation. I can relate to so many of the things you said. Be strong brother!
Whereabouts are you in Jersey, I am in Jersey too, but South, right near philly, I getthe same vibe as you around here but not as much because we have a few havens left to inhabit. Im me at night at theartofcreation.
And for me it ain't that bad. I have traveled for years around the world and in this country and have seen many places. These days I am just happy to have ton's of good food and a friendly crew. with a big group of alot of people ignorance rains supreme anywhere you go, AND JERSEY IS PACKED!!!! Be happy and be alive and if your ever in the lambertville/new hope area give me a pm. jahbless
What part of Jersey did you visit? Elizabeth? Port Newark? Irvington? Camden? Or just drive up the Turnpike and see all of the industrial shitholes? Way to lump everyone & everything in New Jersey into your narrow minded viewpoint. As for the original poster, you're 18, move somewhere else. Yeah theres alot of assholes here, but there are assholes all over the planet. I grew up in super-rich suburbia hell in NJ and left as soon as I could. I didn't jive with the plastic people so I didn't comingle with them any longer then I had to. If you think you're going to find some magic place that only gentle hippies live you better wake up pronto or you're going to be in for a lifetime of disappointment. New Jersey...only the strong survive.
I have been all over Jersey- (Passaic, Clifton, Mahwah, Bergenfield, Jersey City, Newark, all around Bergen County and whatever county is right below it.) i have many friends and my parents know a lot of people from there. Im not knocking the state im just saying that it is very dirty and many of the people are ignorant assholes. This fact isnt denied by people who live their either. What rich part did you come from Teaneck, Tenafly, Englewood?
I have not been to south jersey though but it is a lot less populated so im sure its quite a bit nicer.
The pine barrons are awesome, the south jersey shore is nice, all the farmland down south is great, little roadside stores and stuff. There are good things aobut everywhere you jsut need to find them.
hang in there, youll find yer girl when its least expected!! im in alabama soo i know what its like to not have the same kinda people but ive managed to find ones that i love just how they are......you sound like an intelligent, sexy guy youre welcome to talk with me whenever bc you sound interesting and i can relate for sure. much love!! -mel
Sometimes I wish that everyone who can't stand New Jersey would just leave already and let me get on with it. Sheesh! You've got a lot of frustration and anger busting out of your seams. A lot like some other people I know from New Jersey, actually. But you might want to consider that when you're thinking about why people aren't calling you. People can figure out what you're thinking about them, even if you're as nonconfrontational as possible. The problem is that if you refuse to confront your friends about whatever issues you have with them, they'll just grow and putrefy at the same time, until the emotions involved are entirely out of proportion with the original issues. Good luck.
PS : Wanderlust is a natural urge. Perfectly reasonable to go other places, even move there. But a change of place usually doesn't do much to address the core issues of our lives. It's just new scenery. Thoughts of being new places should not be used as an excuse to avoid the introspection and self scrutiny that, while dificult, lead to more fullfillment and contentment in life.
David54....a New Brunswiccan 'eh? Cool cool. Mr. Jahpiper is just in the same situation as every person that grows up in NJ that cares more about having a soul then a million dollar mansion. New Jersey is probably one of the most beautiful places in the country if you don't consider the ports & the areas surrounding NYC & Philly. When I'm 100 years old I'll be proud to die here.... As for the women...haha...stay away from the clubs unless you plan on scraping off pounds of makeup before you want to kiss the gal...not pleasant. Stick with the locals in the woods...south & north western... North East & Central are for 'city' partying...sorry D54, NB is cool but not good for hiking(Cluck U rocks though...)...heh heh....good fucking bands though!
