Sick and tired of life.

Holla!

 

TBH, I can't understand how anyone in the Western world can be depressed. We have every opportunity to do whatever we wish. Those in third world countries are in a VERY different situation. I know that some of us have had a bad start due to a bad upbringing or terminal illness etc.. I can't really see anything else that could stand in our way. Your only 22 atm. I mean where would you like to be when your 30 (my age) :leaving:

You have the luxury to induge in any path you wish for 8 FUCKING YEARS before hitting the BIG 30. Just go out there and enjoy yourself... plan for your near future. When you make actions to better tomorrow you know that tommorow is a good thing you know? You really don't have the luxury of time to be emo and depressed really do you? I'm sure you could invest that precious time owning your future. Think of the possibilities buddy

 

Wow, my post was way too long.. :huh:

 

x2.

Stay away from pills...

Marijuana helped me quite a bit, helped *me* to make a giant leap. Treated it like medicine, stopped fighting for a high... and not only can I now trip like no other after just about everytime I take a puff, some introspection proved to be just what the doctor ordered.

Depression is assumed here... which is sad. There really is no reason to be depressed whatsoever.

But yes... pills with horrible side effects are not a good thing... hardly ever justifiable.

 

People who have an easy life compared to some parts of the world (i.e. westerners) don't have 'big worries' to deal with... so smaller worries (on the grand scale of things) effect us in a big way. Our minds are conditioned to take for granted that we have food and a shelter over our heads.. so things like that are not enough to give us joy/hope.. but we are human after all.. so we vent our anger on stupid little things (although they seem big to us) and get depressed over something that is laughable to a child in poverty in Africa.

Basicaly our emotions are just the same as those people in terrible conditions but we have learnt to express them for different reasons. A child in poverty stricken surroundings cries when he is starving, but a child in the UK cries when his mum doesn't get him a mars bar, although they both feel the same amount of urgency.

 

I don't wanna sound like I'm mean and have no compassion... but you need to stop being so dramatic. The more dramatic and negative you're gonna be in life, the more your life will be just the way you describe it.

 

btw I do understand and do feel sorry for you. I'd hate to sound like I don't. I just think you need to stop complaining and look at the bright side of your life... and yes, there is always one, if not... create one.

 

That is really the best way to look at it.

Be a man about it

Sounds like he's way ahead though!

 

... "just toughen up" type shit doesnt really help with depression. i dont mean that making chronic excuses is a good thing, but "man it up" isnt all that useful


tbh, almost everyone has gone through some form of depression in their lives. last year i quit my job, stopped going to class, contemplated suicide, stopped caring or trying about life completely. all i felt was numb. since then, im just trying harder, plus i have someone who helps keep me going (bf i live with). not to mention, regular obligations get me out of the hosue which keeps me in the cycle of leaving the house and getting shit done.
what about volunteering? i mean, i know its not gonna pay the bills but even if its once a week its something rewarding that lets you connect with others and it might help make you feel better/be happier/improve/something

 

People have a disposition to become depressed this time of year and around the holidays. The days are shorter for one thing; I belive the sun rises at 7:30am and falls at 4:30pm. It's easy to feel overwhelmed and that you haven't done enough in a day when the day is so short like it is.

That being said, there are therapists that are geared to income. If you are unemployed, you can still make appointments and qualify to speak to a counsellor in your area.

On another note, the best way to get a job is to lower your standards a bit and pound the pavement. Put in a resume to McDonald's if you have to - as long as you are working and have a few things under control you are going to start to feel better.

Now, the best thing to do is routine when you are depressed.

Get out of bed, get dressed, brush your teeth, do the dishes, and keep doing the normal tasks you do each day. Once you stay on top of your daily routine, slowly with each passing day you will be able to feel better - because you haven't hit bottom - and with time you will put some distance from where you once were.

Keep your chin up, and keep doing what you have to do.

 

this is not what I meant. I know what depression is and I get really affected by other's depression too. I didn't say he had to be tough just... sometimes, people are depressed because they wanna be.. almost. subconciously, by being dramatic and negative they create this vicious circle and.. I don't know how to explain. I can't explain. but telling him to be tough is not at all what I meant. nor anything like... oh... shut up with being sad, that's why your life sucks, cause you have this attitude... I just mean sometimes life does suck, but the first thing you should do is focus on what doesn't suck, it's hard, but the more you focus on what sucks, the more it'll suck, and by being negative and having negative thoughts you'll create more shit... ok I don't know if I make sense, but I'm trying..

 

Nooooo Nooooo Nooooo not again.


God, you make me sooooo sad. I'm gonna message you some more ideas on that other place before I sleep...


Blah....


(i guarantee i will make you smile... or die trying on sunday...)


( i seriously want to cry now... you better call me tomorrow or ill call you when i get off work.....)

 

i was gonna post, but i'll pm instead

 

I was gonna pm but I'll post instead!

Good luck with life dude!

 

Thank you soo much to all of you who responded.

I got to spend some time with a really special person tonight ... she even had some dope, so that calmed me down, and really brought me back to earth. We smoke a bowl too, which made me see alot of what REALLY is going on in my life.

Sometimes friends and illegal drugs are better than couselers and pills.

 

I'm glad you have some really special friends in your life.. that's really important

 

First post sounds alot like myself right now.

Things have been tough, and getting tougher lately but I know that eventually, I'll cope with them better.

I was pretty down a few minutes ago and these made me smile.

I'll share them.

 

Josh...I'll tell ya what I told that other poster yesterday...

You have to realize what you appreciate in life. It always lifts my spirits. I had a bit of a breakdown a few months ago. It felt like my entire life had caught up with me and kicked me square in the chest. I took some time and realized what I love doing and what relaxes me and makes me feel better...and I've been building my strength back up since then. And I had an angry breakdown...it wasn't depression...it was anger. I was screaming, yelling, throwing fists at my boyfriend when he looked at me wrong...it was terrible!

Just take some time and spend it with the people you love, doing the things you love to do. Try new things. It'll make the world of difference. Appreciate the small things in life.

Sorry...I feel like Dr. Phil here haha

 

You are such a lucky guy!
Depression is the best kind of emotion, as you both learn from it and you will get out of it with a brighter perspective on life.

All you have to do is hang on for a little, listen to Bob Marley and always keep in mind that life is truly beautiful when your temporary troubled vision allows you to see it.

 

you're right bird.

You don't learn from good experiences...good times don't make you stronger.

It's the downright terrible, earth shattering experiences and emotions that make you that much stronger.