mASTERBATING ONLINE!? cHEATING?

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I do this at times as well
the difference is:
my girlfriend doesn't care

you decide for yourself what cheating is - no one else has any real say
if you to can't come to an agreement that makes you both comfortable, things might not work so well

personally, though, I see nothing wrong with it as long as there's no intent to meet up to carry it out

 

That is a pretty weak excuse IMHO.

Is it cheating? That is something only the two of you can decide. For some it wouldn't be a problem, but for others it is cheating. So, decide how you feel about it, and talk to him and see if you can reach an agreement.


Good Luck!

 

I think if he's talking to other girls sexually and masturbating I would consider that some form of cheating, if there are people he is talking to involved.

 

depends on the relationship dynamics
if you two declare it as cheating/unacceptable, then it is. if, like duck, you two are ok with it, then its not cheating

 

i found a convo of him talking to this other girl and he agreed to meet with her at a walmart, isnt that intent?

 

sounds definitely like it could be
it also sounds that you can't trust this fellow
*hug*

 

Yea, if you (He) is talking to a person on the net. about sex, in one form or another and there is this "intent situation." That is what sucks about the net. In my eyes, and from my postings on here -you would think I would be more open minded about this, well, bullshit basically.

Yes, I have met someone on here, waiting to get to the next step. But, all in all, if you have told "this person on the net" after hours and hours of conversations and e-mails, day and night, for months, how you really feel about each other. It is no different than a telephone call or "old fashion mail".

Commitment of ones words from the heart and soul to another, no matter what form-- is still a commitment.

Horny or not, values are values, our relationships go to hell because of our value system goes to hell.

what is love? if you don`t value one another, how would "he" have liked it if it was you doing it.? I know I am gonna eat my own words here soon,,,

But at the same time, I hate it when a man other than my own guy, wants me to have cyber-sex. Nothing!!! drives me crazier, if I was unattached, it would be different. When you are single, you have no one to answer to but yourself (and God).

But to "love a partner" then pull that shit. Well, like I said I will eat my words. But "you" (he) needs to decide what this "love" is for you or for himself. I personally would say "Go take a hike." Been fucked over before, as we all have and you don`t need an untrust worthy man. There are plenty of them in this world--unfortunately.

 

If you're uncertain if it's cheating, I don't think defining cheating is what you need. Defining what's acceptable, regardless of what it's called, is the important thing.

I'm not monogamous. Neither is my wife. Neither is my girlfriend. BUT we are all honest and open with each other.

The dude is talking to a girl about sex and planning a place to hookup, and not being honest with you. If he doesn't want to come COMPLETELY clean with you and discuss what he really wants here, do you want to invest any more of your energy into him?

One immediate hurt is better than dealing with many hurts over and over again. (iow- if he's a dick, end it now)

*hug*

 

That depends on your relationship.

If my girlfriend had sex online with random people in a chat room she never again talked to, I would not give a flying fuck.

However, if she had an emotional relationship with one (as well as online sex- so they were more than friends), and they talked about other things, then I would feel it was cheating.

If she fucked someone in real life randomly, and they never traded names or spoke again, I'd probably be okay with it. However as neither of us as ANY desire to do something like that, we've never established ground rules.

We have had a live in three some, but it became difficult as the third party really only wanted me and my girlfriend really only wanted me, and I want my girlfriend more than I want him, so I asked him to leave.

Everyone has his own ideas of what is okay and what isn't. What matters is if you and your partner agree, and are honest about what you can and cannot accept.

 

edit...

 

You got it right girl.

 

im planning on talking to him about this , this weekend, and hopefully, we can put down some ground rules of what i think is not aproperite and so on, and i want his take on me in the same respect.
Ill let everyone know how it turns out.
But i think trust is a big thing, i dont trust him, but i hope i can.
Im just not sure....