should cheated hearts be informed?

think about this (not so) hypothetical situation:

you are dating someone for two years and are very much in love but then things dont work out so a break up ensues. you are heartbroken but as time passes you accept and move on for the most part. but once in a while you and your ex hook up and they give you false hope hope of a relationship. but you only find yourself heartbroken again and agian. you feel cheap, used, and empty.

now for the juicy part...your ex has a girlfriend/boyfriend all the while. you swore up and down to your ex that you would not tell about the "hook ups". but begin to wonder why you shouldnt tell.

so, if you were in this situation what would you do? keep your mouth shut? tell your ex's SO? (even just to get a lil revenge) why should your ex get to have their cake and eat it too? while hurting you and their new lover?...but after all a promise is a promise...right?

 

I had a slightly similar situation. My ex and I broke up...he had me going for about 3 months that we were gunna get back together...but he was seeing this girl that he "couldn't stand" the entire time...so one day, I showed up to get some money he owed me and she was there. I sat down and was all nice to her and just nonchalantly slipped the sex we had the night before into the conversation.

That was the end of him for the both of us haha

 

i would tell, only because i'm so vehemently opposed to cheating.

expect her not to believe you and hate your guts, though.

 

yah she already hates me because she actaully knows about one time he cheated on her with me.

it sucks being cheated on, dont get me wrong. but it also sucks being the "other woman"...part of me wants to just forget about this whole thing and move on..another wants me to make sure he doesnt get away with this.

 

if she already doesn't like you and knows about a past fling, telling her is pointless. shes going to lash out at you, not him. i'd just move on, personally.

 

this is where watching "tucker must die" comes in handy

i dunno, i'm not one for shit like that...i'd just leave him, if he's cheating on her now with you, i'm sure he'll go and cheat on her with someone else

best to just get yourself out of that situation entirely

 

I think that you are equally as bad as him for being the 'other' woman. Going and ruining somebody else's crappy relationship with him seems like a pretty vengeful, pathetic thing to do, but hey if it makes you feel better knowing that he has nobody then go ahead. Who am I to judge?

 

This sounds more like a freaking soap opera... I think it's lame as hell to do something like that, the whole situation is pathetic and stupid... So you want to get someone back for breaking your heart by what, telling the person they are in a relationship with now that you are humping them even though you knew they were in a relationship? And the funny part is, even though they broke your heart you are still having sex with them, haha, that's great...
Revenge like this is a really ugly characteristic in someone... And it's your own fault anyways for having sex with someone who supposedly broke your heart while they are in a relationship with someone else...
Haha I just love how he got you to have sex with him even though he supposedly broke your heart... He should teach a class..
You have no one else to blame for anything but yourself...And revenge is ugly...

 

yea, i wouldnt say anything. it will turn into a bigger mess than anticipated, and she will probably end up staying with him if she knows he cheated before and stayed with him. just forget about both of them and move on.

 

yeah, i wouldn't get in that situation. granted, that's because no one will have sex with me, but even if they would, if they had a boyfriend i would look elsewhere for my cheap thrills

 

You already slept with him knowing he was with someone else. It was your choice, if anyone is going to tell is him, the one in the relationship with her. I think you just want to do it for your own selfish reasons. Is not like you slept with him and THEN found out he had a girlfriend.
If you think is wrong to be with him, then stop sleeping with him and let their relationship (that seems like a pretty bad one) fall apart on its own.

 

Um, saying something just seems vengeful. Let it go.

 

Here's the thing:

I know it sounds so juicy and amazing to shake up your ex's world and get back at the two of them, but trust me! Doooont do it. Its just white trash. Youre better than that. Hold your head high, take care of yourself, meet some new people, and whenever you walk by him look the other way! He'll still want you.

 

She already knew about it in the past. You're not doing her any favors by telling her again.

Move on, find someone better.

 

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Cate's sig picture reminds me of prom.

 

of prom???

 

Admittedly it was pretty freaky.

 

wow! le jealous! do tell! hahaha

 

I've said too much already. And I am serious.