My G/f moved in with her F/B

I just had to let someone know so I decided to come back to the board and post this.

So my girlfriend and I are in an open relationship where she dates other guys as well. We have a very solid relationship and dont let stuff like that get in the way of love.

So for the past 2 years she's been a "hot-wife" or hot-girlfriend which means she's available to other guys whether for sex or for another relationship with them while we're together. So far shes been with 8 other guys since Nov 2005.

Anyway, we thought we'd try something kinky and never done before. She moved in with her latest fuck buddy who had been having her a few times a week for the past month or so while she lived with me, Now they both have a 1 bedroom apartment in which they both stay. She teases me by telling me he's gonna have her everysingle day of the week and I'll have her during the weekends.

So right now she's with her other bf, letting him enjoy her to the max.

I know a lot of you are gonna flame away for doing something this wild but I trust my girlfriend and know I wont lose her to something like this. Solid relationship and communication is the key as we've been together for over half a decade which is a lot for our age.

So for those that have done swapping, swinging or anythign promiscous, ever tried anything like this? Once again I had to tell someone.

Thank you

 

Has someone fucked your mind?

 

Umm no, but perhaps somehas has fucked yours. I understand this is a very different and weird thing we got going on but its not something permanent. We're still in college and are experimenting. How about you try having some posting manners ey? If it doesnt float your boat doesnt mean you have to be a fuckin jackass.

 

Did it ever occur to you that maybe YOU have become the fuck buddy??? Your "girlfriend" lives with another man, fucks him every night and you get her on the weekends. If that's what you want then ok. I'm not gonna try to tell you how to handle your relationship. I'm just sayin, think about it. Sounds like you are getting the short end of this stick.

 

Love should have stricter circumstances then what you are describing. Your GF has a moved in with another guy and you think thats okay because they are just fuck buddies!? Sounds like more than that

 

So I AM the fuck buddy, I'm not saying I'm not as he is having my girl more than I am.And yes they are most likely more than FBs now that they're living together and hes having her every night. Thats fine, we do have an open/poly relationship going on and we both have discussed things and both agree, Its not so much of a he's stealing her type thing but rather more of a hotwife/cuckhold thing. I'm not as jealous as I used to be and feel perfectly confident with her liking/loving another guy.

 

as far as my understanding goes, when a couple has 1 on the side (that is acceptable by both members of teh couple), the person on the side remains just that - on the side. unless youre in a polyamorous relationship, but in that case its not just about the sex, theres a deep, caring, committed relationship going on as well. and if she chose to stop living with you to live with him, id be worried personally. but thats me

 

Every relationship involves limits and commitments which are mutually shared. If not sexual commitment, then the commitment to emotional availability!

I don't know how helpful it is to figure out who's the fuck buddy and who's the boyfriend. Labels-libels...

Let it simply be stated that you're obviously not her PRIORITY. That being the case, I would think it a problem if she is YOUR priority.

But if she's NOT, then I don't see anything wrong with having sex and being friends with someone who has sex with and befriends others.

It's not an issue of ownership, but of MUTUALITY.

Why don't you describe the jealousy you felt?

 

Well we're into hotwifing/polyamory aka open relationship as mentioned on first post. What we did here was a mutual agreement on which we both gave our part, she didnt just chose to stop living with me. THey are together for just sex and for the wild rush of knowing she is taken but has a boyfriend at home. Now if they develop feelings thats fine too as we also do the poly thing. Jealousy, I dont get jealous by this kind of stuff, instead I find it kinky.

As for who is the boyfriend and who is the priority? I'm still the boyfriend but he's the priority as she sleeps with him in the same bed everynight and has sex with him more then me. I guess you can still say i'm the fuck buddy for now.

 

If you're happy, whatever. I know I wouldn't be comfortable in this situation, but that's just me.

Peace and love

 

your a fucking bitch and your g/f has you buy the nuts...

 

If anything I've got the balls most fuckin guys dont. I've got the fuckin confidence in myself to do this. Bet your little bitch ass wouldn't even dare try it even if you were into that lifestyle.

Perhaps you should either state your opinion in a well mannered way or just simply shut the fuck up...you piece of shit fuckface.

Perhaps you should also go over what you type to make sure it even makes sense or is spelled right. I've got enough sense to understand what your dumb ass meant but you should really learn.

Oh and guess what? YOUR MOM IS A BITCH

 

I have two questions:


1) What is appealing about the situation for you? I'm just curious.

2) By posting here you probably knew you were going to get adverse feedback. Were you in some way hoping for that?

 

LOL your "g/f" gets to have sex whenever she wants, while you sit around waiting for her to show up once a week and then you get laid. HAHA SWEET BRO! Man I wish I had a pair of nuts like you so I could have the "confidence" to live in your situation, cuz your situation sounds sooo sweet man!! I'm soooo jealous. My life sucks, my girlfriend only fucks me, and she does it a lot more than once a week, but seriously, thats not cool at all. The definition of cool and confidence is getting laid once a week while your girlfriend fucks 24/7!

GROW SOME BALLS PUSSY!!!!

 

more like the cuck, buddy.

 

1. For some reason...when I looked at porn I always found it hot to see a pornstar with multiple men and somehow link that with my gf being with different men...I've always kind of wanted to see a like a porno but its my girlfriend starring in it.

2. I knew I'd get someone not agreeing with what we're doing but this forum appears to have POOR moderation. You just cant go and insult someone for soemthing you dont like. If you dont like it then say so but dont go in calling someone a fag or a bitch for that. And No I was NOT hoping for any of that.

To the prick who thinks he's the shit. I have fucked my girlfriend EVERYDAY 4 times a day except weekends (moms off from work) for the past 5 YEARS. Dont come acting like I never get any. Believe me I've probably gotten more pussy than you have during the past 7 years and that isnt the point. Right now we're just trying this out cuz we found it kinky that my girl would be the busy center of attention. Oh and for the record I have gotten more than just the weekends as opposed to the original plan of only seeing her on sat and sun.

Lady of the Freaks, in reality I never did care for the cuck thing but some things are kinda hot, I guess I might be her cuck buddy but in no way am I into humiliation or denial. Cuz I still fuck her and not only on the weekends.

bst88, just wondering since you're such a smart ass....SO WHAT If other guys are fucking my girlfriend all week? She lost her viriginity to me at 15 and never got to try anything with anyone else until recently that I let her. I on the other hand have been with plenty of ladies before her. I've had my share of experience.

I'm sure there's plenty of girls out there that wished their boyfriend.husband would give em a chance to experiment for a bit with different guys.

 

maybe, I'm wrong here but the way I see it:
you are clearly trying to be okay with this, but secretly troubled
eslewise you wouldn't have created this thread - and you certainly wouldn't have included the details you have
it seems to me that you are defending the relationship not against others but against obvious issues
it also seems someone as open as you claim to be wouldn't get so offended by things people were saying on the internet

I agree with the person that said you don't seem to be your girl's priority anymore - and if that's true it's not fair to you that you should not be hers
(which applies even if my assumptions are wrong)

I am young and new to this, but recently my relationship has seemed to show possibilty of opening up a bit - if this is to happen I plan to suggest rules that nothing happens behind the other's back/without the other's consent (seems our focus would be doing group things together not going off to others entirely, anyways, but it's still a needed precaution to keep things balanced)
though, I don't believe in overemphasize of rules; and certainly not over-enforcing them,
I think, even in polyamory, anarchy is a very dangerous and absolutely reckless way to handle a relationship

if my assumptions are true, hiding your issues with the relationship will not help anything
you speak of openness but you need to have it in your relationship with your thoughts and feelings way more than with your sex
if she is not willing to respond to or at least attempt to help you through your problems - she is not worthy of your love

whatever the case may be, my heart goes out to you man

 

if you have an issue with a post, there is the report bad post (triangle thats red and whit) button you can always click. keep inm ind that personal attacks are not allowed - even ones in retaliation to having been attacked. and yes, you did attack someone in here and insult them. yes they started it, but you maintained it which isnt allowed in the forum rules (i could give two shits if you go back and edit, but keep it in mind before you start whining about the mods in here)

 

I saw these replys and thought about just putting some general opinions in... First of all to those with rude and unnecessary comments: what he does and the way he chooses to handle his relationships is up to him and it really isnt our place to judge or be so harsh to someone who is, I can probably assume, happy with the way things are working. Personally I do think that what he's doing is fairly brave as most people really couldnt understand the ideas behind what he has decided for himself and his potential partners. I myself do understand so in response to the original post I say: If your girl has progressed with the other guy to the point of moving in with her I would try and talk to her and really find out what her true intentions are, if she is going to maybe be his gf instead of yours in the long run, you'll probably want to know so as to look elsewhere for yourself. If however you are comfortable with the situation as it is then by all means continue, Fair warning though, dont be suprised if things work out differently then what you think, they tend to be dynamic and change unexpectedly. Like you stated earlier communication is the key and so I'd really try to find out the concrete situation to give yourself more room to experiment with other women if you decide to. I mean honestly if she gets to have fun in addition to the relationship, then doesnt that mean you are intitled to the same and equal liberties? Peace, Love, Understanding. -Joseph

 

Hey thanks for the understanding. Theres is really nothing to talk about beside her calling me and telling me how things are. Her intentions having her own place is just to have a place for her to have sex with her regular lover and be able to bring other guy friends over without having to worry about parents;whether hers or mine and seeing her come home with different guys all the time other than myself. If she does decide to date him or any other guy officially, she will tell me and consult with me prior to any decision. He's already asked her to be his gf but she only wants sex.

As for things not going the way they have been planned, thats a good point as things NEVER do go as planned but for this, plenty of talk between both of us has been done over the past 4 years, and she has been getting dined and wined by others for the past 2 years. She enjoys the liberty, loves me and respects me for granting her such freedom which most guys wouldn't. You'd expect her to have left me long ago as she has been sleeping with different guys for 2 years as of this past October, doesnt that kind of prove some loyalty towards me?

Allonym, I'm sure you know how it is to be insulted and not be able to respond. Reason I mentioned that about moderation is because every other forum I've been to automatically deletes, temp bans insulter, or simply discourages the insulter and I did not notice anything here. Thanks for the tip on how to report. And no I wont go back and edit, I could care less, if you want to delete it go ahead.