i should be embarrassed about this, huh...

soooo there was this guy i had had my eye on for a while. we'd known each other about a year before i finally was like, "fuck it, i'm just gonna do it".

so we finally hook up one day and it's really awesome and hot. but then he was about to cum and he pulled out - and there was blood on him not a lot at all but, i mean, there's no way you could miss it! oh jesus christ. i thought i had finished my period and i didn't really know what to do. i wiped away most of it with my hand and said sorry and shit and started to try and finish him off oraly. we did that for a while but he didn't cum. he said we'd have to finish this another time when he wasn't stoned.

things weren't akward at all though. he said thanks and smoked me up before he left for work (which i made him late for hehe). and he said things like, next time catch me when i'm not stoned. he also came back later that night and hung out with me and my roommates, like always and nothing's been weird. in fact, one night we were all at the bar and he came back to the apt. we didn't hook up again but i got to snuggle with him and make out a little before he went home.

but yo. round 2 hasn't happened yet. and not that i'm impatient, but i'm just a little worried that that little *ahem* incident was enough to turn him off completely. because i'm not sure if i buy being too stoned to cum. i mean, i've heard guy friends say that to their girls when they were just not feeling it. so fuck. any thoughts?

 

I don't think you need to be embarassed about it. He actually seems pretty mellow about the whole incident. It might have turned him off a bit, which might be why its not happened again, but at least he's being nice about it.

II'd just talk to him about what you want and your concerns because he seems graciouus enough to be respectful

cheers

 

No reason to be embarrased, that's just a part of real life. He definitely should be happy he's getting it anyway. Personally, it wouldn't bother me a bit. You're horny, I'm horny, it's only a washable fluid.
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if he was cool about it, theres nothing to worry about. i would understand if that sort of thing happend, i dont see why a guy would freak out, its normal. and ya you can be too stoned to cum, usually booze makes it really bad but weed can too.

 

thanks guys. def makes me feel more at ease

 

I've definitely been way way too fucked up to cum too. It happens.

 

That wouldn't bother me at all. If i'm attracted to someone enough to want to have sex with them, a little blood won't change anything.

It wouldn't bother me................

 

He probably was too stoned to cum. For some it doesn't take much. Of course, he could have an aversion to blood and that put him off. I doubt this, however. Probably too high.

 

Well.... I have many experiences in this situation and I think some guys are with me on this. The first time something like this happened to me it was much like your situation, I got kinda wierded out about it, but like everyone else has said. Its natural and happens. Now I dont give a shit at all! If I want it and she wants it I dont care if she just got her monthly friend, showers work wonders!

 

how's it workin' out? any updates?

 

wellllll he still comes over and watches tv and what not, but i got the feeling that i was going to get hurt or embarrass myself, so i kinda put up the walls. you know what i mean? leave before your left kind of thing. and i guess i've been shutting a lot of people out actually, becoming sort of an island. but i mean, he comes over every night so i guess i've just been coming off as unfriendly and boring. aahhh i've been kinda sad lately i guess and don't feel like i can really talk to anybody. OH and one night we were all getting ready to go to this girl's party and i come out of the shower and my roommate is like "so josh was talking about how he wants some action at this party and i'm like 'just sleep with stephanie' and he goes 'i live here, i can't sleep with stephanie' "

sooooo fuck. just another notch on my belt i guess, eh? haha...

 

To be honest if he is actually bothered by it I don't think I would bother with him again. It happens sometime. Generally I warn if I am on my full blown period. But otherwise i can't see the problem. It is just blood. It just washs off.

 

That guy sounds fussy. I'd tease him if I knew him... you know.,.. harass him for being so fussy

 

It just one of those natural things. I don't mind it with someone who is on as long as I know and can clean as soon as I come out lol

 

maybe he thinks that he hurt you and that you are the one who doesnt want to do it with him again. give him some signals that your still interested in sex

 

That's a good point

 

Hmmm...

that aah...

Makes sense

 

ahhh i know. you wanna hear what else has happened lately? well i ended up hooking up with this other guy... the weed delivery guy haha he gave me his number a while ago and one day i called and we went out to this great romantic lunch, and we talk on the phone a little bit. one night we go out for drinks and one thing leads to another. it was a nice fun night but then my fucking roommate told the guy i like. apparently they both had a problem with my actions and didn't have many nice things to say about me (they were talking about me in the living room when they came home for lunch and they didn't know i was in my room). basically what was said was that i was kinda slutty and my roommate has negative respect for me. now, i don't think of my self as slutty at all so i approached roommate. of course he was like "no i don't think any less of you cuz you slept with weedguy blah blah blah" but i tried to explain things: i'm lonely. and it's nice to feel like a guy likes you for a little bit. i really don't think i should be defending anything cuz it's NONE of his business but what are you going to do? as for the other guy he was pretty stand offish for a while but recently he's been nicer and nicer. hopefully my roommate ran off and told this guy that i still like him and that i'm not a big old slut. it's just when life gives you lemons, you make lemonade right? i mean, free drinks, a little free weed, good company and some action = pretty successfull night right? but that's all it was. a nice little week where it felt like someone liked me. and that shits over, cuz you can bet weedguy still hasn't called me since we hooked up, and it's been a little over a week. i'm kinda betting on never seeing him again lol but whatever. we shall see where things will go

 

babe i think you missed your point. when your that stoned all of the time you have
problems cuming. you can loose intrest, couddleing requires less effort than making
mad passionate love. he probably doesn't even remember the blood. guys have greater
problems performing under drugs than girls. a fact of life