I also posted this on the psychic forum... Ive been in the process, for about the last year in visualizing the girl of my dreams. Ive talked with a certain someone on here about her before but i wanted to post again. I feel like something is blocking this from happening. I know its deeply rooted in my subconcious and there is just something there, some sort of mental construct blocking this manifestation. i wont get too into how strongly i feel about her but i can tell you that it feels like i already know her. its become so clear to me but i still havent met her. Ive been meditating on her for a long time (by meditating i mean visualizing, devoting focused thought, not real meditation) and shes almost become apart of me that just hasnt manifested yet. i feel like there is something stopping it from happening. ive read stories of people who affirm their love and meditate and visualize what they want and within weeks its there, but for me this seems to be an ongoing process with lots of deep personal questions such as: "do i really want this" "am i ready" "is this right" is it these questions that stops it from happening? am i continuing the process by affirming these thoughts? sometimes i feel like by me thinking about her that is what cancels out the manifestation. im constantly (really constantly) thinking about her, visualizing her next to me, as if i already had her with me. Am i acting like shes too much of a prize?? too many questions that are hard to answer... i feel like i am breaking the law of allowing this to happen. i believe, sure, but am i not allowing it to happen? i dont know and im getting confused.... its getting hard for me to distinguish if i went about this the right way. when i say i feel like i already know her its because ive been through enough relationships personally to know what kind of woman i really want, who would be best for me...i dont care enought o waste time with other girls...but then again..should i? i dont know, im confused. ive built this up so much im not sure if i can get myself down... im also at a point in my life where im coming into a spiritual crises/awakening. its gotten time for me to buckle down and get my mind together, to focus my body...i havent been focusing enough on meditation and yoga and im still caught up in my addictions...sometimes i feel like its these things i need to take care of before i meet her...or is that just a thought that is also blocking this from happening...i dont know... if anyone can grant me some good spiritual advice, ill gladly take it into consideration.... peace lovers!
Maybe what your visualizing is actually the femminie componemt of your own psyche, not another person. You may think you know what the woman you want will be like - but in reality you may be surprised when she shows up. Maybe by having a model in your head of what you think you want, you are closing yourself to being open to others who may actually be just what you need. Best thing really is probably just to be open minded and wait until you meet a real person. It's not likely you'll meet someone exactly according to your own imagination. Reality is usually much more interesting than that. Good luck anyway - I hope you find love in the near future.
Buddy, as I have learned you can hurry love no you just have to wait, love don't come easy and you can't go looking for it cause you'll never find it man...trust me I've been through all this, then when I stopped looking love randomly fell into my life and her name was Carrie. I met her at Bakers Square...Anyways you need to start loving yourself again like you use to before you let your addittions take over then you will be able to love another human being...and I gerantee if you stop looking and continue on your spirtial journey that someone else out there living through one of there spiritial journies might met up with you, and that's love man. Peace, Josh Page
I dont mean to take light of what you said but you are 20, you will be alright. Fuck around till you find her, seriously you will drive yourself crazy. The woman of your dreams will probably not be who you think. You can not think her up and if you keep thinking that you will set youself up for failure. She will come to you when she and you are ready no rush
it often happens that some people meet and get to share a life "the one" in their lifetime. some find it at 20, others at 15. for some there is more than "one" for their lifetime and they don't take away from each other. i had hopes of the "one" but in my case i have had plenty hahaha! i'm ok with that and always was. i had many little loves--each one taught me something and was 'meant to be' for that period of my life. the one that came closest to me feeling as though "this is it" died. for years afterward i was very happy alone thinking i had my chance, i'm lucky to have had it because many die never knowing what that feels like and i let it go happy to be free & single. then i met my husband.....i couldn't imagine life without him. actually, as much as i loved my x that died, he limited me insome ways that my husband empowers me. i was 31 when i met my husband.....we lived in different cities and it was obvious divine intervention that helped us find each other. when its meant to happen it will. but don't place limits on it. also make sure this desire to have "the one" isn't out of fear. sometimes we're anxious to have that person or any person just because we naiivly assume once we meet him or her our life will get easier (not always true) or that we are afraid of heartbreak, betrayal, seperation etc etc etc and hope to avoid the dramas and heartbreaks that come with love. or just we're afraid if we don't have them now we'll never have them. just enjoy and relish every moment of your freedom but live your life in a way that makes room for love. be the best person that you can possibly be in this life and the rest will come to you.
Why do you need this to happen anyway? What are you looking to add to yourself that isn't already there?
actually, if you HAVE love, what you need guidance on is staying out of trouble. or rather real wisdom, not arbitrary and often emotionally vested "advise". =^^= .../\...
The woman you picture is probably far from your ideal woman, and maybe you won't even be able to stand her, but anyhoo... Desire for this woman is affirmation that she is not presently with you. If you are not willing to risk disappointment, then you are not actually taking a risk, for instance your idea may be feasible but your process flawed. You must never feel spited by the universe, for then you will miss the next opportunity and spite your own self instead. It may be more efficient to focus on becoming someone great who will thereby attract someone great, in which case your focus is much more on yourself than on your other. Do not try to get lucky, to be dealt a good hand of cards, and be fortunate in finding a rare woman, who will like you as much as you like her no less. What about all those other poor souls? Surely she will eventually wish to be with someone else better?
You call yourselves Mystics? Honestly? ....Mac, you're smart. You know that there is someone out there. You're waiting for them. You already know who she is. The hardest part, is the waiting. Don't go "fuck around". Is that the life you want to lead to find this woman of mystery? Some of us who are more spiritual, who are more devoted to a life of love and joy tend to run from those lost from society. "Beware of those who will lead you astray." What if she happens to believe that sex isn't just sex, but sex is... something beautiful. A connection of two souls, in the most physical way possible. I spent six years in love with a man, who would never love me back. After three years, I spent a night on the ground with my head buried in my hands, asking God to please just give me the name of my soulmate. I waited, I listened. He told me "Kyle". And I cried. I cried hard, because my fiance's name was Erik, and I didn't really know a Kyle, that well anyway. The one I did know hated. Kyle and I married last year. We're very much in love. And we fell in love, when we both refused to. Love comes at the most inconvenient times. You'll know, you'll feel your chest pull towards her like a magnet. If you know she's there, she is.
Someone once said that you never know what you want in your lover until you find him/her. That`s true. And don`t focuss to much on that, on looking for the person. Love will coem to you when you will be ready for it. It`s difficult, yes, but patience is the key. And love to the world.
