girlfriend may be pregnant

I wouldn't tell anyone what to do when they are in this situation. They are both young and need to hear FACTS and not opinions for their choices. If the girlfriend is pregnant (don't remember if OP knew for sure) they need to go to some kind of counseling, perhaps at a planned parenthood. They would receive unbiased information from a specialist instead of listening to the opinions of people who don't know the entire situation. It doesn't matter what I PERSONALLY would do in the OP's situation b/c I don't know the whole story. Besides, why should I force my beliefs on people who don't share the same views? Let the OP and his girlfriend decide b/c it's their lives that are affected, not mine or anyone else on here.

To the OP, make sure you and your girlfriend are aware of the consequences of your actions, whether you choose abortion, adoption, or to keep the baby. Find a counselor and make an educated choice.

Peace and love

 

You are totally right. We are not professionals. However I did mention a fact. There is no regret in keeping your child. What parents will regret your birth?

 

I had a miscarriage and I am relieved that it happened. I would have regretted having a child at that time and probably would have tried to hide it from my family (strict Catholics) and given it up for adoption. I'm Buddhist, so I wouldn't have gotten an abortion. I'm very lucky I didn't have to make that choice; my body did.

I don't think anyone can say that EVERYONE would not regret keeping a child. Every situation is different, and there are people who regret having a child. My sister's birth parents regretted her birth, as she is adopted by my parents. I know of at least one other person who regretted having a child.

Peace and love

 

it's called signing away paternal rights...and therefore not having to pay child support.

 

Yeah well having a child might be nice and all, but you got to think about YOUR future as well. Having a mini you is nice and all but it'l cost alot of money, you might not get a good job and end up being a bad provider.

But then there's abortion and you have "i killed a baby" on your conscience" which O.K. you had your reasons for but is still pretty traumatizing for some ppl.

Or you can put up for adoption which can help both you and the baby...but then carrying a baby around for 9 months puts a big damper on things. And the kid might end up emotionally detached and have psychological problems...

either way you should look up some hard facts about all your options on google or something.