HELP. premachure ejackulation. help lasting longer in bed

ok. first i hope im posting this in the right part of the forum.

im extremely embarist with my issue and it is hard for me to post this up. so please keep your jokes and laughs to your self and be glad you dont have a problem like many men have. now to my story.

im 25 years old and im stuck with p.e. its bring me down fast emotionally and mentally as well. i have been with my girl beleave it or not 10 years. i love her to death and would never think of leaving her. but are sex life SUCKS. she claims she has no problems with it but i know thats not true. i feel we may be coming to an end soon because things just have not been on the up and up. we barely even touch each other anymore and when we do i see no interest from her or even a turn on. i am loosing my mind and becoming mega depressed and beginning to think real stupid stuff. i need help and i feel i have no where to go anymore.

i have tryed so many things from the start stop, 5 kinds of pills, different ways of doing it.... and so so much more. nothing works. she has no idea i tryed any pills or anything.

what i find odd is this. are 4play can last for an hour. playing and all kinds of things. when she gives me head i can last for 15 20 min at a time. when she jerks me off same thing i can last 15 20 min. as soon as i enter inside of her it happens. 2 pump chump. not even 1 minute i cant last. its ripping me apart...... i have even tryed the ''jerk off till your about to go and stop then restart when you calm down and do this for about 20 min each time'' i do this when im alone.. that has not worked. when i masterbate i last 1 to 4 minutes if i am lucky. sometimes i do this in the shower. and when using a lube like soap or something i can last for 20 min jerking my self off. but as soon as me and my love start to be close. pop i go. i am tired of spending 100s of dollars and wasting my time. hours of research and no improvements

i need help and im lost where and what to do. i tryed to explain my issues as well as i could. feel free to ask questions and i will answer it in the best way i can. and thanks for thoughs who help me

 

Can you take it really, really, really slow with yourself on top?

 

Jerk off a couple times before you bone her. Or take her to bed. Or make love. Whatever.

 

i am normally on top. i go slow most of the time but it still makes no difference......

i have tryed jerking off 1-3 hours befor we have sex but it still has no effect on how long i last.

 

I mean like 5 minutes beforehand.

 

well i can try right befor hand. feel odd saying this but ill let you know waht happens. HA

 

Have you tried viagra?

 

aside from jacking off there is little you can do to fix this issue....If you feel like you are starting to blow your load then pull out and start giving her oral. She will think you are just changing to give her more pleasure!!!! When the ugre to cum has passed then stick it back in and know one knows the difference....

 

If she doesn't have a problem why should you. Foreplay last an hour...what's the problem? Trying to get preggers? And can't?

 

Ugh....when will people just stop using that word to refer to pregnancy?

 

Tensecman - check out my ten techniques to stop premature ejaculation in the Sexual Health thread of the Love and Sex Forum. PM me if you need more help.

 

Imagine yourself withdrawing power/energy from the vagina, rather than putting energy in.

 

I used to have that problem. I would bite the inside of my cheek to cause a ton of pain while I was cumming. That takes your mind off the orgasim, and there's no psychological benefit from it. No release / no joy. Then the physical part is done, and then you can go back to boning her and when you really do hit the button in 20 minutes or so, you've got it.

Just try to psyche yourself out when you're shooting your load premature. Don't focus on it. Dull it out.

 

maybe more exercise would help?