ok I went out to lunch and on a few very casual dates with this guy right. Anyway I realized it wasn't going to progress because after several weeks he still hasn't tried to kiss me. So I stopped takiing his calls and after two or three times he stopped calling me-he never left a message. I just checked my voicemail and there are 4 messages from him aall basically saying the same thing I miss hanging out, I hope you are okay and the last one he asked if I wanted to have dinner with he and his dad. Now is that bizarre or what? I mean he hasn't kissed me and he wants me to sit throuhg lunch with his dad. I really like him but I don't want to have to play little games of not calling him back to have him interested. I can't stand men like that and usually cut them off. But I have been crushing on this person since I was 17. What do I do?
why don't you try and kiss him if you like him? There aren't any rules in dating that specify that the guy needs to make the first move.
well your obviously not sending him the signs he needs. why is it that the guy ALWAYS has to make the first move? we're not mind readers, its hard to tell if someone is doing friendly flirting, or waiting for you to ask them out. why don't u try initiating something, and if he resists then you know its going no where. relationships are a two way thing ya know...ya can't blame him exclusively...
Hey Their is nothing wrong with him/you. He just likes to take it slow it would appear. I am like him. I have been hanging out with this girl on the weekends the past month or so. This last weekend she started making comments on how I play with her head ( I cuddle with her on the weekends), but how I never call her during the week or go to see her during the week. (Some people need to realize I work during the week lol) This type of behavior almost instantly turns me 180 on the girl, making me not want her... for reason of a bad pun, but i'll say it anyways, she is acting like a female He may be a little shy too, and maybe he is waiting for you to make the moves?? I take it you too have those "feelings" for each other. Not like the feelings of I'll cry if I dont talk to them or ever see them again type of thing, but where you see him with another female you get a tiny bit jealous, or you get a little bit upset if he does something out of the norm (i.e. for me, going over to that girls house, then leaving without spending the night). Females are just as strange as guys, we all have this weird thing about us. As for me, I definatly know that if I see another guy make a move on a girl I am after I give up 100% because I assume I lost. As for the best Advice I could give you, talk to him Tell him you have feelings for him (if you do), and tell him you would be interesting in getting to know him better and dating and well, you know, that hole speal. From what you say, and this sounds like the typical guy that is like me, will be ready to open up to you and return the words Good Luck
So true. Theres a good chance he hasn't tried to kiss you becuase he isn't totally sure of how you feel about him. Girls signals can be confusing! Don't give up on him yet, make sure he KNOWS that you're interested...
Sorry other posters...didn't read, I'll catch you next time. how about having an evening or even late night date, lunch dates don't seem right for kisses.
.............if you can't stand men like that then cut him off. If he's not the man you like now, what makes you think he's going to change.
well this is the thing. Now even though I still like him I have become turned off by him not making a move. I mean if he really liked me he would have a long time ago right? He is really concieted (another turn off) so i don't think he would have a problem with making or move or knowing that I liked him. I thought it was the age thing at first but now I don't know. I liked him because he was in a position of power over me...sick I know but girls dig that, but now that I discovered the real him I am not sure it lives up to what I expected, but I have this image in my head of how much I used to want him so part of me wants to go for it just to fulfill my desire of a few years ago.
I am really unassertive with men I have no idea why so I can'take myself too clear without getting goofy or uncomfrable. Plus I don't want a relationship where I have to state the obvious all the time
NO! Why do you assume that just because he hasn't "made a move" that he is not interested? How many times do we have to say maybe he is just anxious about whether you will be receptive to his "move"? Some guys -- I am included -- are reluctant to make a move, to put it all on the line, unless we have what we consider to be a pretty sure sign that the girl "likes" us. It sure is unfair of you to judge this guy strictly based on his reluctance to "make a move," since it could easily be for reasons other than what you are attributing. So now it's also that he's conceited. This would be a major turn-off. I don't blame you there. If you know this is a conceited guy, why do you even want something with him? You already know that there's something in his personality that doesn't sit right with you. You think he's gonna change? You've already answered your own dilemma here. You don't like the "real him." Forget him. Blue skies, -Jeffrey
I personally try to act as normal as possible around girls I am interested in, until they show some interest back or I get really interested in them and want a relationship with them. If I were you, I would show him and tell him exactly how you feel and that you want to be with him. Hug him, try to kiss him, or just peck him on the cheek sometime as you hug him goodbye. Ask him to call you sometime, or just call him out of no where and talk to him for a while. I guarantee he will come around if he is interested. Remember this: If there is a problem between two people, it cannot be fixed by one of them alone. To work together takes communication, and it always has to be started by one of the people involved. The one with the problem is the only one that knows it exists, adn therefore must bring it up. If it is to be solved, it takes knowing that a problem exists.
lol, tell me about it. I can't stand it when girls think that we have to move in first. We could want to really bad but be sure we haven't a chance. There should be a way to force a mutual declaration of feelings during a date or whatever. Like make it where each person has to tell their feelings about the other at the same time, have a guy come in with a bible and witness to swear them in, and a scribe to get what ech person says, then you sign a statement and all. A little exxaggerated, but I am getting my point across right?
whispers you didn't sound harsh at all thanks for the PM though he sent me an email this morning that says 'I enjoy being friends with you' that kinda said it all for me. I sent one back saying that I have enough male friends and that wasn't what I was looking for and that his ambiguoity ruined any chance we have of being friends or more. really think he does just like me as a friend so to keep from getting hurt I cut it off now. I know that sounds strange but I really don't just want to be friends with him because of his personality so that kinda made me realize that I shouldn't want more than friends with him either.
The way I see it, Lyn, you have two options. 1) Play the traditional dating game, and keep wishing that he would one-day make a move on you 2) You make a move on him. Keep it subtle, yet strong enough for him to catch your drift. Then there's option 3: Break up with him, and move on. Choice is yours, and the clock's ticking.
