It irks me when people do this to me.

I hate it when people aren't up-front with you about things.

Like I made friends with this person a short whlie and we started to email each other. Everything seemed pretty good, he seemed a good guy. Even said that he 'Loved to have discussions with me' and that 'I had an air about me' or whatever. Usually we'd write maybe page long emails to each other but just the other day it was like, he wrote this increadably short responce letter to a discussion that we had going and it like like one sentance answers to questions and statements. Veeeeery brief.

Just gave off the impression that he was just uninterested in what I had to say suddenly and I've no idea if it's just me being paranoid, because this has happened before with past friends, aquantances and such or if it's like he's he's just 'Yeah lost interest in you. K buh bye' kind of deal.

Has this ever happened to you?

 

no sorry but i hope it works out for you...
xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx

 

I have. I can dig it. In reality the guy was checkin' you out (regardless of what he said he was or not)...

It's the base motivation to see if you are breedable. I've come across it a lot, but then when I got to be around 30 it became less and less, then I had a baby and people with other kids started to talk to me again.

It was like some sort of passport to communication.

Or maybe my perception is really off. Maybe he had some tough stuff going on in his life and had to prioritize his time.

I don't like being dropped either. I miss having friends.

 

You've got to keep in mind that regardless of how nice a guy he is or whatever, everyone knows that online-only relationships are really not worth a shit when all is said and done. Don't get me wrong, of course anything is possible! And nowadays I'm sure more and more people are meeting their life partner through the web everyday...

I don't mean that you can't meet someone, and have a very meaningful thing going...you can! All I'm saying is that most people realize that if you ever do lose interest (and you've never even met the other person) it's extremely easy to get out of the situation. You just move on to whatever else piques your interest next.

And it's easier to just let the thing fizzle out than to explain to the other person at great length why you suddenly don't want to continue on with it. You don't need to offer up as much of an explanation/justification as you would with a long face-to-face intimate relationship.

Hope this helps, and best of luck!

 

Thanks alot to the three of you for the help

I mean, I wasnt in any way looking for a 'relationship' with this fellow and he certainly didnt give off the impression that he was looking for one with me either (then again very few do). Just the last email was kinda, yeah see ya later, then nothing.

My interest in him was solely out of the fact that he was teaching me about paganism. I'm pretty interested in learning about other peoples beliefs and religeons and he was pretty into it himself.

It just bugs me because I've lost a few friends like this too and it just bigs me that he couldnt have had the decency to have said something like 'hey look, im not interested in talking anymore, it been nice knowing you.'

Then I would have accepted it and got over it quicker, its when you dont get an explanation and your trying to figure it out yourself that it starts to get on my nerves.

Some people suck like that I suppose lol.

 

Well that's what I was trying to tell you...it might seem like a simple thing to you...but I know that I would feel highly uncomfortable (and probably pretty bad) if I had to tell someone flat out that I no longer wanted to talk to them anymore. In my eyes, I'd rather just let them get the hint...ya know?

 

Yeah, I can see that.

It's just not something that I'd like to do myself. Just seems a little cruel to me thats all. Thanks though, i do get where your coming from too

 

People are horrible, yup.

 

People can really be so heartless
But your an awesome chick and that guy...I guess sometimes people don't turn out to be the person you think they are. And I know how you feel. I've had friends just decide that they've had enough of 'Jane-the-weirdo' and want a more NORMAL person for a friend. It can be really painful, and just frustrating aswell.

*hugs*
peace and love
Jane

 

Thanks

Lots of heart to you Jane, your super. I'm proud to be your mate.

Your right too, just gotta harden up to it more, it happens.

 

Thats alright love

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