Here are some things that some people know and some people don't. With a simple understanding of this, one can lead an interaction to where one see's fit. Take it or leave it, I do it out of love. Men like LINEAR progress, women like INTERNAL progress. MEN: Goal -> Goal -> Accomplishment "I got the scholarship." - "I don't have to work this summer." - "I have more time to pick up chicks." THE PAYOFF IS THE RESULT ("more time" in this case) WOMEN: ---->---goal-->--------->------- | /--->----goal---->--------- V ^ \ | | | | ^ accomplishment------/ V | | \---goal-------<--goal----<----/ "I got the scholarship." - "That validated my choices." - "That showed me that I truly do have academic potential." - "That made me feel incredible because it showed me more about myself." THE PAYOFF IS THE EMOTION, THAT RESULTED FROM A DEEPER UNDERSTANDING OF HERSELF, AND DISCOVERING HER *UNKNOWN/HIDDEN POTENTIALS*. (in this case, her academic abilities) GUY LOGIC: A) X = X B) X-characteristic = X-related-quality C) you are carrying a gun and have 100,000$ cash in a briefcase = you are probably a bad person" D) "This guy's got a gun and a briefcase.. he's probably bad" GIRL LOGIC: A) X = Y B) X-characteristic = Y-unrelated-quality C) you are stupid girls sitting in a club looking around with a stupid look on your face (that I can SAY I think looks 'bad', even though it doesn't really look like ANYTHING) = you are BADGIRLS D) "these girls have a fiesty look in their eyes.. they are BADGIRLS"
I could be wrong. The theory has been field tested multiple times an evidence is pretty much conclusive but, I could be wrong.
I would have to agree. I think that way sometimes. Like if a girl flirts with my fiance (not knowing we are together), I automatically assume she is a slut. Not the best logic, but my basis is that my fiance had been sluts in the past, so any girl who is attracted to him must be a slut. However, if a guy would hit on me with my fiance around, he would think the guy must think that I am hot. He would never get a connection that guys who hit on me = male whores. That's the main example that comes to mind when I look at myself. I notice it much more in other girls. One of my friends had her boyfriend ditch her a couple times to hang out with friends lately, and she gets the idea that he is talking to other girls and wants to end the relationship. Another example: my fiance's sister thinks that I'm a bad person, so when her son told her that I let him microwave toys (which I obviously didn't) she assumed that it was true. In fact, her logic is even more fucked up than most women. When my fiance and I split temporarily, he got with a slut and I hooked up with a friend. She started calling me a slut when the girl my fiance had gotten with was pregnant and there were 3 other possible daddies. The sister claimed the pregnant girl was better than me b/c she doesn't like me. Plus, the sister says this as her two kids have different fathers and she has been married 3 times at 27. From a male perspective, a girl who had gotten with a friend is not as slutty as the girl whose baby has four possible fathers. Plus, she had already had one kid by a totally different guy. Long story short, I do think women have a fucked up logic in general. Not all women have this to the same degree, but my interactions with the female species leads me to agree w/ the OP. Peace and love
Are those tendencies or fatalisms? Are there men who are process-oriented and emotionally aware? Was Ghandi not one example? Are there women who are goal-oriented? Was Thatcher not one example? I could probably name a few in both categories. But I do think you're onto something in the sense that people experience relationships differently, and it is important to recognize that and bridge differences through empathy.
There are always exceptions to the rule but, for the most part, this your typical male/female train of thought. Of course with further study, other theories and add ons will pop up.
