Girls: boy worried to admit i'm still a virgin

Hi, I'm 24 years old and am still a virgin. I was painfully shy for my teenhood and after that it became such a big thing in my mind that it's been difficult to get over, as pathetic as that sounds. I've just started seeing someone great but I can feel it's about to get intimate and am worried about talking about my situation, or whether I even should at all. I would imagine girls at my age expect a guy to know what he's doing form years of practice; the few times it's gotten intense with other girls I've been too nervous to 'make it happen' (if you know what I mean) and would hate to ruin what I've got with this new girl, should I bring it up or hope it all goes fine? Would be great to hear your advice...

 

You need to become more comfortable about your disposition. You say you've at times become "Too nervous to "Make it Happen"", but do you also realise that the penis isn't the only instrument of the body to be intimate with?

Anyway...

In my personal and honest opinion, I suggest you do let her know, but don't be concerned over it at the same time. If and when you attempt to become intimate, if you cannot "Make it Happen", don't panic. Instead, love her in an alternative way.

A nice little note that may or may not help you:

Women can become aroused and orgasm far more quickly and extravagantly when handled with the tongue and the hands, rather than the penis.

 

^ are you really 17?
that was one of the most simple and insightful posts I've read in a while now

I don't think I have too much to add to it
virginity isn't a huge deal really, a lot of times that is a signal that the person will be unskilled, other times the skilled virgin can prove the strength of knowledge
but all it really is is an amount of the sex you have had, which is 0 =P

culture may act like it matters, but fuck culture
there are some happy and successful people that have never had sex, I've even read an article about a handful of well respected celebrities that never lost their virginity.

 

I get that a lot, Sorry if I seem "Old".

On another note Snowed, Im a virgin myself. A celebate of my own will at that, but I assure you that you can take my words and put them to good use.

 

to be honest, if shes worth sharing your virginity with, then shes worth speakign to about it. its not thew orst conversation ever, its not even as bad as admitting you have say, an std. sometime guide the conversation toward past relationships. somewhere in there, let it slide that youve never been fully intimate with anyone before. it doesnt have to be a big deal, but its a good thing to let her know about it

 

noo, that's a very good thing if you ask me

I am a virgin too =D
shan't be too much longer though, well, maybe I will, I guess that comes down to the girlfriend to decide =P

 

It really depends on what kind of female you're dealing with. I've seen many females who think virginity is actually cute and that they feel honored to do the "corrupting."

 

to be honest, i would love to fuck a virgin lol i think its kind of sexy... i personally find it sexy because it lets me be the leader heh heh

 

You could just tell the girl that you want to "make the happen" with.

There are two ways:

First is the nervous confession "ummm...yeah...by the way I am....ummmm...a...ummm virgin." That might make her nervous because you don't seem comfortable with the idea. Or she may like the innocence of it.

Second is the "slip it in" confession. While sitting talking about personal issues slip in "You know, I have something to tell you. I am a virgin. Yes, I said virgin" and them move onto something else. Of course she will stop you, but now you can talk about things in a relaxed atmosphere. She will ask if you are serious, and you can tell her why you waited. She will likely find it adorable, and will begin planning her deflowering of you. Yes, women want to make sure your first time is special. Plus, since she knows it is your first time in advance, she will take the lead. Follow her directions and you will both have a great time.

And there is nothing wrong with being a 24 year old virgin. If I was single it'd be a hell of a lot of fun to play with one In many ways I miss that feeling you get when you try something for the first time. Not virginity, but like the first time you have sex in public, or the first time you find "that" spot that makes your toes tingle. Yeah, there are some benefits to being a virgin.

 

yeh i wouldnt be embaressed if i were you, you should let her know though... otherwise you might freak out and she could think you arent attracted to her like she thought or something.

i personally wouldnt care if the guy i was dating told me he was a virgin. it would be kind of cool to be someones first time... no one ever forgets there first time!

 

She will definitely know even if you don't tell her.

You need to stop being nervous, if she really likes you, this is just a hump she'll probably get over in a bit (after a bit of practice ).

Chin up, keep doing what you're doing, tell her when it's appropriate but only if you really think she can handle it - it's a huge deal to some girls :/.

 

all are good answers.

 

Don't tell her, just follow these tips:

1. Take it slow - try to read her, and listen to what she says. Have a romantic private setting for the first time.
2. Do all the reading you can do on sexual techniques before hand.
3. Read my ten techniques to prevent premature ejaculation in the Sexual Heath forum.
4. Start with a lot of foreplay (especially on her). Then do intercourse first in the missionary position, with a pillow under her butt, and be sure to use a condom.
5. Communicate with her as to what she likes and dislikes, even in the middle of the sex.
6. Recognize that the first time with anyone is not the best it gets.

PM me if you want more information, or information on how to give her a G Spot orgasm.

 

On the bright side you are clean; she should be stoked.

 

If it makes you feel any better I'm in a rather worse situation than you, being 30 and still essentially a virgin. Much like you I was too crippled with shyness in my teenage years and young adulthood to even feel entitled to share my tender feelings with someone, and now at this late age, I fear I may have missed my chance at love and lovemaking. Time will tell, I suppose.

My advice (which you'll likely want to take with a grain of salt) is to be completely open with her about it. Tell her not only that you're a virgin, but that you're also nervous about making love with her, and worried about your ability to please her. She may at first see that as a bit of a let-down, but when it comes to the moment of finally making love, you'll both be in complete communication with no secrets.

Also, I'll have to assume you're no stranger to masturbation (I hope it's alright to talk about that sort of thing here. I just got here and I seem to have just jumped into things..), but you can become very familiar with yourself sexually, and your own needs and abilities and strengths, and bring that into the situation of making love. Think of your desires to share contact with her, and the ways you'd like to touch her. I'll assume you're a considerate type and would like to please her as much as possible. The things we may want to do to the one we love often turn out to be the things that will please her. Think of the feeling of touching and rubbing her soft skin, breathing warm words of love onto her neck and her ear. The simple things we wish and long for are our natural sense of giving to one another, and can speak more than all research we could do.

Also, finding a good way to communicate in the moment of making love is important. Tell her that it makes you feel good when she touches you, tell her just how much it means to you to be touched, and as you touch her in turn, in your intimacy, notice the pleasure it gives her, ask her the things she would love to feel most. And well, don't worry. You'll both figure it out together.

 

I think the girl would be more impressed as your first time would be with her

 

I always wanted a boyfriend who is a virgin.Never found one. And I don't expect to find one, at least not one of my age....

Just a sad little remark....

 

There is a reason some people get laid and some don't - it does reflect upon you.

If you believe sex is morally wrong and abstain, that is one thing. But if he hasn't had sex because he is painfully shy, it means nobody has chosen the poor little guy.

Seriously, go hire an escort, get it out of the way, then plough this girl you're with now.

 

Oh, come on!!!!
The bigger deal you make of it the worse is gonna end.
Don't think about it and don't worry so much.
Trust me. You're just gonna panic, and we all know how that usually ends.
Just relax.
The problem is as big as you make it.