ok, heres the problem; two nights ago I was at a party. Me being me, I was completely hammered, and apparently spent half the night coming onto an eighteen year old guy from my old school. I'm not sure whether anything would have happened or not, but my friends teared me away and called a taxi. I had no idea why until the next morning I was told he'd been suspended from our school two years ago for masterbating on webcam to a (then thirteen year old) girl in my year. He has a reputation for preferring eleven year old girls... kinda disturbing. But, me being me, I have a strong desire to phone him and arrange to meet... it sounds crazy but i really want to find out more about him; earlier on in the evening we really got on. So, what do you think? Avoid him at all costs or go for it?
OK. maybe it is wrong, but he cant help it. as long as he has control over it it should be ok. all it is is a sexual desire just like being straight/gay/bi/pedophile/animal lover
It's just that the media portrays them out to be evil with all the reports of people with child porn and stuff. Truth is theres alot more pedophiles out there than you know about.
He is 18 years old and likes 11 year old girls? 13 year old girls? Avoid him at all costs. I dunno, but I think that any guy who is 18 and has a thing for 11 year olds has a few screws loose whether he acts on it or not. yuck.
Just curious how you know that most pedophiles are "perfectly normal" and would "never hurt a child". ???
I know you are probably intrigued by this, but if I were you, I would stay away.. 11 is like sorta not even preteen..thats pretty weird..I bet in a few years he will be the town chester...
thats the thing... he has acted on it. a few weeks ago he apparently got off with an eleven year old girl. That really should put me off. But, like Children of Bodom said, I know he can't help feeling like that. The other side of him is really special, funny, intelligent... arghhhhhhh the confusion
That would scare me, I dont care, 11 is too young..and that poor 11 year old was probably manipulated.. All I am saying is if you come up missing, dont say no one tried to warn ya... And people are different, this is just my opinion...
A large part of me agrees with you. It's not so much myself that i'm worried about; most of my friends are good friends with him, he's not dangerous in a "missing" sort of way. What I worry about is, like you said, the way he treats younger girls. I don't know if i would be able to accept that.
One who is 18 and messing with 11 year olds makes you wonder what type of person he is...why he doesnt want someone who is aleast around his age.. I know he may seem like a nice person, and he maybe, but something is not right when he is doing that to 11 year olds.. I know its hard and he may seem nice and stuff, but I would just stay away cause you dont want to be associated with someone who takes advantage of 11 year olds and exposes himself to children..
Not trying to belittle your intelligence or anything here.... but you are probably just a bit too young to have to make that kind of a moral decision at ur age. If i went after all the bizarre guys i was crushing on when i was 15, i'd probably be in all kinds of situations now! My advice is to wait a couple years before giving it a go. I mean geez.... there should be some decent guys around who aren't pedophiles, too??
Well Bodom also said that "most" pedophiles are "just normal people who wouldnt hurt children" which I strongly disagree with. Mabye these people cannot help the way they feel for whatever reason....and mabye a small percentage go their whole life and never act on it.....but if this guy is 18 years old and he is messing around with an 11 year old girl, that is not only seriously against the law (in which case I would suggest you report him) but it makes him a PEDOPHILE! You might see him as funny and special, but dont you think the PEDOPHILE part overshadows that? Just a little bit? There are plenty plenty of guys out there who are all those things minus the creepy molester part. Do yourself a big favor and stay away from him.
thanks for the advice. I've talked to his best friend and decided to leave it, just a lot simpler i guess
what do you mean.......'i dont know if I could accept that'? are you questioning his actions or 'your' reaction to his? either way....i dont see that it is of any importance. if he lusts after pre's then he wont be interested sexually in you. if he is interested sexually in you then he isnt lusting solely after pre's, hmm? perhaps i spy a glint of kink here.....you may find his actions kinky and wat a part of it. be honest with yourself kid........nothing wrong, if i have that kink.......go for it.
He was 16 at the time, so masturbating for a 13 year old, while tacky, is not unheard of and usually ignored. There are some pretty hot 13 year olds these days, and he was a 16 year old with raging hormones. So, not the brightest move, but not something he should be crucified for. If he likes 11 year olds then there is a problem. Yeah, some pedohiles are harmless and they keep their fantasies in their head never seek to make it a reality. Some, but not all. "However, all pedophiles are not child predators, to be a pedophile does not mean that you actively seek children. In fact, some pedophiles even admit that their urges are a result of a psychological disorder and seek help for this problem. Though, there are some pedophiles who have an additional psychological problem, the inability to control themselves, the failure to determine right from wrong, or just carelessness on what is right or wrong. With the lack of this moral foundation they become predators. These pedophiles now seek sexual encounters with children." (http://www.cpiu.us/index.php?name=) Molesting a child is unforgivable! As a mother it is a nightmare I hope to never live. I am not defending pedophilia, but I do realize not all pedophiles act on their "urges". A 16 year old boy is not a pedophile, but a horny teenager. That is forgivable, and expected. We're back to "he likes 11 year olds" and all I have to say is make damn sure its true before you throw out the accusation. You can destroy someones life saying things like that. If he does like 11 year olds, run! If he doesn't then people need to stop spreading lies.
Smiling- if you know he does this and he gets caught put in jail you won't be smiling any,more - Happy jail time to both of you.
Now, I know the original post was from 3 years ago and Smiling Rose's situation has no doubt been long since resolved, but there is something that needs to be said here. One reason many people turn to children or other inappropriate partners for intimacy amd affection is that they are unable to get it from adults. To brand such people as irredeemably unworthy of adult love and affection is to force them further into the cycle of pederasty while denying the tools they need to escape from it. I'm not saying it is incumbent upon Smiling Rose or anyone else to enter into a relationship with someone in order to 'save him from himself'; BUT, there is something wrong when a person's need for adult love is seen as a reason for denying him that love. P.S. I would like to ask anyone who thinks sexual attraction to underage women is a pathological aberation why they think there are so many porn sites featuring "just eighteen" or "barely legal" models with the implication that if they could get away with featuring younger models, they would.
