It's true, I've always wondered what it'd be like with a man, but never really thought too much into it. I was either too afraid or too confused. I'm confused right now, because I just got dumped by my girlfriend, and I'm afraid she might've dumped me bi. Now I'm in a mode where I finally feel open about gay and bisexual encounters, I'm interested enough to try... It's kinda scary, but I'm willing to go out on a date, but is this too soon? I feel like this one person (female) scarred me so deeply, that I just rather not feel that sort of attraction to women anymore. I want a man with feelings and emotions that I feel, I want that person to care for me and understand a man. I want someone strong to take care of me, yet I still attracted to females somewhat. It's really hard to describe and I'm alone, I feel I need a guy to show me whats it like. Can anyone give me some advice, what should I do with these feelings?
Dude,I understand what your going through.Being scarred deeply can get someone to think more about the same sex.Is it for the right reasons though?? Would you just be reacting to being hurt??Are you really attracted to men?? Would you regret being with a man??I'd try to take things slow,sort stuff out in your head,It's totally confusing I know.That's why I'd try to make some sense of things first before making any moves.I sort of went through somethings similiar to what you described and relate to what you said about men.I had a love/hate relationship to my bi side for a long time.I had a horrible relationship and became more open to it,after that I had a short relationship with a guy that did'nt work out.I took some time after that to try to understand what was up with me,and slowly things became a little clearer (still fuzzy).It helped alot though.Try not to panic and freak out So you have some feelings Ok deal with it you're maybe more curious about it now that's cool,we all go through the same kinda confusion.Stay on these forums and hear what other people are going through also,that helps me alot. Good luck,and Hang in there!..... .......................................... ........................................... *
Hi David 3151: I really understand you. I think that your bi side is coming out, just learn to accept that you like both sexes, That's very important if you want to live and have a happy life with whom ever you choose. Certainly a men can and will understand you much much believe me!! much better than a woman can.You're a young men and will see and experience lots of things during your life. Regards.....Jim
i understand how you feel, i think you should see what it is like with a dude, its the only way you will no how you realy feel, but i thinkn that you should first think things through, and go from there
You should wait until you're in a better state of mind. If you're 'scarred', then jumping into any kind of relationship right now is a bad idea. Take some time and be by yourself a while.
i think it's great how you're acknowledging these feelings and trying to understand them but what i feel may suit you better is more of a lightly friendly sexual relationship at the moment as it were... try not to approach these feelings by dating a guy or acting out a conventional romantic relationship as you may have with a women because that may leave you even more confused and more questions unanswered. just let things go with the flow and be honest with yourself, for example accept that you like something or don't indulge in it if it makes you feel uncomfortable. but be brave, safe, and honest.... hope this helps, good luck! franzde
