Sex - How Many Times Per Week When Living w/ Partner?

First off I am 21, he is 20. We have our own apartment together. I work 35 hours per week, go to school full time, and am the captain of my school's dance team.

He is 20, goes to school, and has to spend alot of time on eating and training.


We are a very close couple, 6 months together serious but a little over a year together total.


He takes very good care of all of my needs and spends alot of time taking care of me so I can manage my schedule, I take care of him when I have the time to.


We have worked out all of our major problems, relationship goes great, only thing though he is consistently upset with the amount of sex in the relationship. Leads to arguments.

We have sex 2 maybe 3 times a week, is this normal for a couple our age that live together? Do you have any advice? I am afraid our relationship will just turn into being about just sex and him not being with me for what we have.

 

Uh...its normal

 

it is normal. at least you are getting laid.

 

2- 3 times a week isn't bad, sure most guys will want more but i'd have to question him getting upset about it. if it was once a month and you guys were living together of course he'd feel neglected but he shouldnt be complaining about 2- 3 times a week, especially if you are both busy.

 

If I were you, I would cut him off for a week and beg him to take me out for a romantic dinner one night. But I'm spiteful.

Sounds very normal to me.

 

hell, my bf and i who live together sometimes only get it on once every week or two, if were both stupid busy and tired (we both do school fulltime, he has a million assignemnts each week with his courseload and i also work part time). making time for each other is very important, whether it be sexy sex time or mellowing out together

 

I think 2-3 times a week sounds good
I wouldn't mind getting it 8-10 times a week

 

I can't even BEGIN to tell you how dissatisfied I currently am with my wife's "once every month or two" policy she seems to have currently adopted. She absolutely INSISTS that such frequency is very common - especially for 30-something parents of 3 kids (youngest is 5).

But I am a big believer in marriage and monogamy ("lifer"), so I silently endure and "self-supplement" as often as necessary (currently it seems like every day). For the sake of peace I do not argue or push the issue often. When I have tried to discuss it, it has cost us HUGE arguments (obviously a sore spot with her).

And it's not like the sex is bad either. When we do "get around to it," she's very responsive, and almost always has orgasms quite easily.

Anyone had similar issues that can offer advice?

 

I'm convinced that men would be able to enjoy sex with their female partners more often, if they put more effort into making their partner feel more relaxed, appreciated, and desirable BEFORE the actual act itself.

If you want to have sex more often, then you've got to make the other person also want feel like having sex more often. It makes sense.

Everyone enjoys being wooed, appreciated, and wants to feel special.

If your man wants more sex - make him come to yoga with you. There needs to be some kind of medium of appreciation between two people for there to be desire and willingness to make love with frequency.

If two people have a different willingness to have sex, perhaps creating a time when the mood is right, can make the sex seem so enjoyable that it becomes irrelevant how much is going on because it's worthwhile to take that extra time beforehand and the frequency will stem out from just that.

If my boyfriend told me that he wants more sex during a very busy time in my young adult life, I would be willing to work on it, but I'd make some requests of my own.

 

so how are women suppose to get it more often?

 

Lace the beer with Viagra? *shrugs*

 

I currently have sex with my gf 2-3 times a week. At first I had a problem with it because for a long time we were having sex at least 4 times a week. But eventually I just projected that energy into my school work, heh, just as she does for work, and it works out now.

 

Honestly, and maybe I'll be the unpopular one here, but 2-3 times a week seems rather low to me. I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years, and a lot of time, it's 2 times a DAY, so I don't know. I honestly think it depends on the couple and different libidos and such.

I know that the popular belief is that men want it more than women, but there are many women out there (myself included) who want it just as much, or even more than their partner. I guess it's a matter of finding mutual ground. If you are ok with 2-3 times a week, then that's your own perogative and he should respect that. But on the other hand, he's part of the relationship too, and even if you're not willing to have sex more than that, you should at least be willing to discuss it with him.

Lack of sex doesn't mean lack of love, but I do believe sex in a relationship is important because it's a type of connection that only two people share (granted you're in a monogamous relationship).

I wouldn't say your relationship is odd. Different people have different situations, and if it works for you, then good.

 

2-3 times a week is not all that bad.

 

for being really busy 2-3 times a week isn't bad. i know the last person i dated, we were always so busy we barely ever had time for sex. so it's really not bad at all. it'd be different if the both of you were home all the time doing nothing.