i have been with my wife 2yrs have gotten head ONCE.also she will not take it in the ass,ever,never.anyway i can live without the anal,but god damn i want a blow job bad.
Well, you should have settled those issues before you got married. Blow jobs should be a 'given', as would be you 'eating her out'. Booty bangin' is another matter, although I would have to have that as well.
I would talk to her about your feelings. Was she giving you head before the wedding? She might not be that into it because she feels things are unreciprocated, unappreciated, she's self conscious, etc, etc. You'll have to talk to her. Keep in mind that its a two way street. She might feel like she is being sexually neglected also. Open communicationn is the key. She may just be like "I ddon't like sucking dick." If thats the case, you have to decide whetherr its a deal breaker or not. I suspect, that if she gave you head before, theres something thats making her hold back and you can work through it. As far as anal, I'd just ask her what her concerns are. If its a fear of pain or something, maybe suggest working up to it with plugs and what not. If she's not into it, well, then, you're not into it so to speak. Cheers
Talk to your wife about the oral sex. Most women I have known loved giving oral sex. Some would do that but not have intercourse.
Can't really give you any advice about anal except to talk to your wife about it. My wife and I never tried it or even talked about it until a few months ago. One of our co-workers came in to work one morning complaining about her husband coming home drunk and banging the hell out of her butt. She was barely able to walk. Other women then started telling of horrible experiences from first time anal sex. That is when I discovered this site; as I was trying to find some information on anal. From the advice I picked up on this site, my wife and I were able to have anal for the first time last week, and we have been together for 31 years. My wife enjoyed the experience and wants to do it again. Spend some time just talking with your wife.
thanks for the input,btw i cant get rid of her i want to keep all my stuff not half.man i have tried the anal talk i have had a friend try to talk her into,and just tried sticking it in without warning.i would love to do it but i could live without it.but the head i am getting kinda tired of honestly.she has said plain in simple she dosnt like doing never has honestly i respect it but now that we are married it is kinda different only 4 months.the ONE time she did it was in the first month we were together the way i look at it i do it to you you do the same,and because she wont do it i very rarely do it to her,once a couple months the past year.
Maybe I see things differently, but in my relationship w/ my fiance, he has never giving me oral in the 3 years we've been together. We have talked about it before and I respect his feelings. I don't have a problem with it b/c he's not comfortable doing it and I would never force him to do something he doesn't want to do b/c I love him. I give him head probably 85-90% of the time when we have sex, but if I didn't like doing it, he wouldn't hold it against me. Our feelings for each other are stronger than sex. And on the anal sex, he doesn't try to convince me to do that b/c he knows how much it hurts to have something shoved up the ass (he had an analoscopy a couple years ago.) If not getting oral or anal sex is this big of an issue for you, I would hate to see something serious happen to you guys. Hopefully, talking to her might strengthen your relationship. Peace and love
If your partner isn't giving you want in bed, it's time for a new one. Life is too short to waste time not getting it the way you want it.
Theres going to be people who tell you to get rid and find a new girl right? But lets face it, you married her accepting every little thing about her. Maybe you should talk to her about it, i mean if she trusts you and wants you to be satisfied in the bedroom she should come around.
I remember when I was afraid to perform oral sex because it just freaked me out. That was when I was in high school. I actually dated a guy for 3 years before I would finally do it for him, but I had never done it before, so ja. Has she done it before? She might be worried about the fact that she's so inexperienced/doesn't wanna gag on you/doesn't want to hurt you/etc. As for anal, that's a personal preference, and if she makes it clear that it's not gonna happen, it most likely won't. I got into giving oral sex after I started dating my current boyfriend, who actually just about made me beg to do it to him... but oh-mah-lord, nothing's coming near my bum..
