damn, i need so much your help guys

hi there. i was wonderin' if you could help me with this one. i'll put it shortly. i'm bi as far as i know, i date women too but men seem to have a larger impact on me. so i met this guy by accident on my university 3 years ago, i liked him but neva had the gutts to try something with him..u know the same old fear u might be taken for a fool and everyone would just reject u if they find out about u beein ' gay or bi.. well , the problem is that at the beginning we hardly talk to each other, but that changed last year when we started to have trips together, spend some nights over one other's but we neva did anythin..i mean i was affraid to tell him what i was actually feeling. moreover, as far as i know, he doesn't use to date women,neither men. he did rejected some hot chicks too.well awkward for me, at least it gave me hope. yes , i know you allready think " Dude he's gay, what u waitin for " but trust me. u can't know for sure. i tried to let it pass but goosh, wasn't it enough already that i loved him, now we talk and see each other daily, spend more time then ever, and this really freaks me out. i barely help myself from jumping on him and giving him a kiss.
so all in all, how can i find out if i do have a chance or not. cause if not, i don't want to look like an idiot either . i know , i might be a coward, but i;m so confused. please guys , any piece of advice would be huge for me.

thanks, ghilenhall

 

Does he have other gay friends? If so, you know he's not a homophobe in any way so it will not be such a shock for him if you say that you feel for him in a way other than friendship. And, with a bit of luck he feels the same way. At least he'll probably still be friends with you.

 

nope, he doesn't have any gay friends. in fact in our group no one is gay, or at least we don't know someone beein gay. there is somethin else too, when we go out and have a bear , he looks after chicks but not that much , u know somethin like " uuuu look at that babe over there, nice ass ", though he neva had a girlfriend and i'm 90% sure he hasn't slept with any either. omg, and those brown darkned eyes are killin me...

 

u never no m8 he cud b posting a similar message on some other forum, i say u jst tell him your bi n if hes into men he will feel confident enough to tell you. but whatever you do dont say u love him without knowing if hes gay bcoz tht cud jst end in disaster.

 

Ya gotta start talkin', otherwise you may grow old and sad thinking about what could have been. If he can't handle your interest perhaps he's not such a great friend after all. Just make sure you let him know that you repsect him and his wish's whether he's gay bi or straight. Good luck.

 

That's exactly what I was gonna tell ya bro.