Do you ever feel like you care about people more than they care about you? Or that you're trying to reach out to people but they're not reaching back? Do you think you're right or do you think everyone feels that way... I'm feeling blah right now... so could someone answer those questions?
(1)Yes, (2)Yes, (3)Yes, and .. (4)Yes.. I am a very depressed person and have had my reasons so throughout my whole life. Abusive parents, unsuccessful relationships, name the shit on the stick I probably have some experience with it. But nonetheless I keep on trucking (they actually got a sheet of acid that says that, pretty cool). I tend to be funny (to my friends in the real world), and a deep person in general. Keep in mind I'm only 16 years old so if you want to make some assumptions based on that fact go ahead, could bother me less, I feel I'm mature. Anyway when my friends are down I usually try my hardest to make them feel better and bring up some damn fine points for them to look upon, however was never able to do it for myself (or at least 'BELIEVE' in it, no matter how hard I tried). Like a song by eminem, I have people I'd literally give a fucking arm for, but whether they'd do the same for me is definitely a question I still ask myself. And I also think, well hey, if I'm asking myself that question, should I even be willing to give them an arm? Yeah, I give a fuck a lot about my friends, I have best friends that mean so much to me. Some of the best ones are girls, too. Maybe that's what makes it so easy, they generally aren't assholes like some of the guys I know. Yeah man, I'd definitely definitely say I care more than others care. When somebody tells me they have a problem, I listen, I try to help, I try to be a little funny if it's okay with the given situation. Sometimes I notice (since I sort of read people) that a friend will have a problem, I ask them, we talk, the person thinks I am a really cool guy and they promptly thank me for helping them and giving them good advice. Makes me feel a bit better. Have I ever had this done for me? Maybe once or twice but I never had any successful reaching 'out'. And I tend to be open minded so.. generally I'll take either two sides of something even if I do not agree. Yeah.. I reach out to a lot of people, not a yell back really. It just makes me feel cold, honestly. I think I'm right, because I know what my friends are thinking (include the love if they are a girl or just feminine): Wow, 'he', is a good friend, I love him to death. Here's what they are passively thinking: "Even though I do not ask him or try to help him with his problems, I still love him to death and would like to believe I could do anything for him". But then maybe I wouldn't blame them, as I don't seem like a person who has these kind of problems. But I have showed signs, I even tried talking by bringing it up myself, and what did they do? They simply continued talking about their own problems 'if' it related to theirs'. I guess I'm not so important as I'd like to believe to some.. Who I'd like to believe.. I should be. If that makes sense at all to you. I don't know, peace and love to you, really. It's tough man and I really do feel bad that you feel that way. Honestly, it really does make me feel bad. If I was 19 and knew you and was still the way I am, I'd try to make you think of them questions as obselete.. and untrue, and show you what some people can be in the positive swing. Again, peace and love. Keep on trucking
I guess when we get into slumps we sometimes get selfish, so maybe thats why your friends just talk about their problems. That sucks though... about abusive parents and all too. I feel bad when I get sad because I have a great life, great family, great boyfriend... And I really am grateful for all that but sometimes I just feel down. Mostly because I don't really have any close friends other than my boyfriend and I just want to connect with people. I was just having a total breakdown last night so yeah. Oh well! You should take your own advice though definitely... hope things are well with you
I find that if a friend is seeming greedy or seeming to act unthoughtful, its not because they mean to be, they just dont realize/know what you're expecting from them.
people are selfish in general. which is a good thing if done in moderation. everyone needs some "what about me" time. the problems come when one gets to accustomed to their particular "what about me" time. Metallideth has a point up there with the friends don't mean to act unthoughtful and/or greedy. but i disagree with it being 'cuz they don't realize/know what you're expecting. they are you friends; they know you and your expectations. it sounds to me that you are an extremely nice person. did you ever consider that maybe, just maybe, some of those friends of yours are taking advantage of your niceness? (not all of them of course)
Even friends may not realize what they're doing. Unless you've directly told them "this is me, this is everything I expect.", one shouldn't count on them knowing when something they've done, or are doing bothers you.
this a problem for me sometimes. i find it very difficult to read people, i've never been very socially adept or much of a people person. i just have a hard time understanding what people need/want of me unless they tell me directly. when i know, i'm happy to help out and be more considerate, but if i dont.....i try but i usually fuck up and piss people off. needless to say i dont have a great number of friends.
I was just thinking about this today! I give so much love and stock into people. I want to spend so much time with certain people... And in the end its a waste cause they don't feel the same... I think we all are going through some hard times. :/
if we are talking about newly acquired friends, then yes i can agree with that. but when it comes to 'old' friends, they do the same shit. And they know better. maybe i'm just talking out my ass from a 'piss on the world' point of view. but really, how many of your friends don't know who and how you are? i guess in the end it all depends on ones' personal opinion on what it takes for someone to be called a friend.
don't let it bother ya. most friends people had when they were in high school aren't around long after graduation.
Read it everyday for the past 2.5 years... A little convo I'll never forget, with an artist I look up too.. Arielle: I wish I knew who my real friends are. Johnny Sinn: Thats impossible dear. ♥
Dude I feel that way everyday.... probably just because I'm a pieces... I'm not sure what'd right or wrong to feel really.
Duuuuuude!!!! I feel for the water signs... Chines sign: Water monkey. Sun sign: Pisces-Aries cusp. Moon sign: Scropio. Sooo that would make me... HOT WATER! hahahahah
i agree it can be hard for someone to know how their friend is truely feeling in a situation...thats why i always beilve its important to understand why they are feeling a certain way..thats why communication is important we are all human beings prone to make mistakes in interpreting how someone else could be feeling
