Need some info about "running away"

Okay, I'm 16 and I'm leaving, so don't try to talk me out of it. lol Just wanted to say that first. Anyway, I am leaving and I have one person going with me (for sure that is) and several others that may. I have my plans figured out, and I don't plan on being homeless, but I will be if I have to. We have enough money to rent a shitty apartment for a while until we find some jobs. I wouldn't even mind being a live-in maid or something. lol But yeah, I have a question to those who have ever left home as a minor or know anything about it. How easy is it to be found if your parents are actually looking? This is assuming that you took a bus (or some other form of transportation) to the other side of the country. Can anyone give me some info, because I really don't want to be found. Has anyone ever ran away and not been caught for a long period of time... say two years? lol My parents would actually look for me, too. I'm going to leave a letter and let them know I'll be okay. Perhaps e-mail them if theres no way to trace that. Anyone know? Yea, anyway. I just want to know if I can travel all the way across the country and hide out in the city without being found. Thanks.

 

You must really hate your parents.

 

in my book the girl runs away to haight ashbury.. her parents got three detectives but they told them that if you don't want to be found, you're not gonna be found. i know this is just my book but i'm assuming it's based on the truth, i really don't think they'd be able to track you down, especially if you use different names. how old are you? (regarding legalilty of it)

 

Trust me, a skilled PI can hunt you down, especially if you take the bus. The bus leaves a paper trail. Almost everything you do leaves a trail. asorry to say, but unless you are really careful not to leave a trail, and lucky, if your parents hire a good PI they'll find you.

 

Paper Trail?

 

all I wanna say is its a shame you feel you have to but best of wishes and I'm sure everything will work out for ya

 

Well it'll mostly be the fact that you're not 18 so you can't change your name and so on. You just better hope you don't get arested.

 

I ran away for the first time when I was 13, I was arrested after a week and put in juvie hall, I remained there for 5 months when I was released I ran again, and again till I ran far enough to San Francisco when I was 16. Being on the run is not an ideal lifestyle for a young girl or boy for that matter. Your friends will eventualy go their seperate ways and you will be on your own. I'm not saying that this will happen but it happens all the time and it happened to me, I was raped 3 times on my travels, I had been robbed, beaten, and shot once by a doped up crack head and once by the pigs. I went threw men that hurt me and used me. Like I said this may not happen to you but it is out there even more now then back in the sixties. I did not hate my parents, I was living in a void alone and sad. Life on your own always seems so glamorus but when the reality hits it can be a bit frightening and jbs are sometimes scarce. Just be careful and dont take risks and watch who you trust. And yes they can trace E-Mail by the ISP addy. I would advise you not to run and try to work it out with your parents for a couple more yrs. MHOP


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Ditto

I'm not convinced that it's a good idea, but hey if you want go for it.

Just be kind to your folks, obvious I don't know you or your family. But they probably aren't selfish bastards trying to ruin your life.

I went though phases of hating my parents (runs in the family, though my Mum and Nan had more valid reasons) and wanting to run away, more for the adventure than anything. But running away never solves anything, just makes more problems.

You're their baby and they want to take care of you. Otherwise they wouldn't look for you.
I know you don't want them in your life, but in months, years, decades time that might change. So don't loose them totally.

 

Thanks everyone. I'm 16 so I don't suppose I could change my name legally. I could perhaps just go by a different name? lol How would they track me if I took the bus? I've never took a bus anywhere; do you have to have ID or something? I'm pretty sure I can do this as long as I can avoid being found. Where's the best place to hide out in California? I don't think my parents could hire a good PI because they don't have much money. How about Canada, would that be a good idea?

 

Have you thought about where you will live?

Can you get a good job?
Why not go into communal living forum, and see if there is something like that you can do, living on something like the Hog Farm, or get on the bus, I think most of those places ask for a start fee then its free, you just work to produce your own food. If you going to run away and your dead set on doing it, please do it safe. Make sure you have thought it all through. We do not need anymore statistics.

 

Hold up...why are you running away? and why to across the country?
And how many people are coming with you and why?
I ran away when i was 18...last winter..just for a few days, and ya know...it didn't fix anything in my life...just made my parents more mad at me and complicated things...It's hard too, living on your own....It's not as liberating as you might think.
And I doubt you're actually gonna do it if you're online asking people what to do, because if you're serious, you'd be gone now, because the longer you wait, the less likely you are to do it.
And the fact that you're underage is a big problem. You're parents still have legal cutody of you...you're attempt at freedom will probably not work out. Find something else to do to deal with your frustrations. Get a job and move out...don't run away from your problems. And you probably would end up homeless if you did this. Just stick it out...it'll work out for the better

 

If you show your ID to anyone, you're busted. If you use plastic, of any kind, you're busted. If you are serious about disappearing, hide your ID (or don't bring it), use only cash, and forget your real name. Most street kids have a handle or nickname that everyone knows them by. Many use their hadle to sign documents and stuff.

If you use your ID, you will be found. Without an ID, you can't hold a ligitamate job. Most people who would give you a job under the table, will also try to "help you." Regardless of how sincere and caring someone seems, don't reveal your age or name. If you want sypathy, find some street kidz and share your story with them.
I spent some time homeless in San Diego when I was 20. Squatted, slept under bushes, shelters. Ate at church charities, food pantries, homeless feeds, foraged, pan handled, smoozed. Had all my shit stolen 3 times, got beat up a coupla' times, went hungry, went to sleep wet and cold. Was harassed by cops regularly, searched, had my squat ransacked. Met some of the coolest people I have ever known. Sat on the beach and watched the sun set. Spent days and days in the library reading obscur shit. Celebrated my 21st birthday without friends and family, but still had fun. Drank Maddog with whinos, bear with bums, smoked grass with kidz, swam in the ocean. Walked for miles and miles everyday.
Most will discourage you from doing this and frankly I'm one of them. This will not imptove the quality of your life, nor gain you any sympathy. If you run away you will be miserable most of the time, and I'm talking real misery, not people being mean to you. By the flip side of the same coin, you will be more free than you have ever been before, have experiences that will change the way you think about life, see stuff that most people shudder to imagine. It builds character, thats for sure.
I knew quite a few street kids in San Diego, all very interesting people, many were fucked in the head, or hooked on meth. Knew a girl on the beach that was sleeping with the bums for her fixes. Her name was Dallas, she was a minor, probably arround your age, ran away from home, thought life would be grand and by the time I met her, she was gone. There was nothing left of the person she had been and very little of value to build from. Shit happens.

Best of luck.

 

Have you know relatives you could stay with for a while...just to get out and see what life is like with out your parents breathing down your neck...

When i was 16 i spent as little time as possible at home...my parents worst thing was saying i was treating the place like a hotel...wow. I still did all the family stuff when required... but the less time your with them the less time they have stuff to moan about.

You don't say what the trouble is that is driving you to leave home??? is it realy worth it.

If the reason is purely selfish and the cliched teenage drama then stay put and lump it for a while till you have finished education or are sorted with somewere stable to live for a long period of time..you don't need the hassle of having to worry about accomadation.

If its a bit more complicated and a bit more intense go to your nearest information bureau..

i don't like being rude it just seems that your bored of your parents and want the fun of being out of your home...tell me i am wrong

 

Why do you want to run away?

 

I don't think this is going to be some wonderful escape from everything. I know how hard it will be. I'm not leaving because my parents won't let me do something or because I have mental or drug problems, or because I'm just "bored". I'm from a small town in Kentucky, and I've never really been anywhere bigger than Lexington (if anyone knows where that's at) before. My parents aren't the greatest, but I do hate to make them worry about me. I've tried getting them to let me get a job and move out, but they won't do it. I've had people I could live with, but they just won't let me move out. I've tried everything to make them let me leave this place, but this appears to be the only option I have left, and I really want to do this. My boyfriend (he's 20) is coming with me. And we've been together for 3 years, so don't go saying I'm some idiot teenager who doesn't know anything and that he'll leave me or something. We've been planning this for a little while. I've also been in touch with a few people from close-by that may come. And I have someone I'd like to ask. I'd like to try the whole commune thing, but I can't seem to find a place that would accept me with my age and the fact that I'm a runaway and everything. Does anyone know of a place that would be open-minded about it? I wouldn't care to cook, clean, garden or whatever -- I'm not some lazy, spoiled kid. I'm going to go by a different name, and I suppose I'll leave the ID behind. Like I said, I have enough money to rent an apartment for a little while until I can get a job or something. I've had jobs that paid under the table before, even in this small town, so I'm sure I can find something. I'm not taking credit cards or anything like that so I don't think it'll be that easy to track me down. I don't suppose I can call or send e-mails to my parents to let them know I'm okay. How about if I take a cell phone with the plan here and call from another state; anyone know if it's traceable? Sorry I'm asking so many questions, but I'm really just trying to avoid being caught. I guess I'll have to trash my computer as well. lol

 

How to disappear in America without a fucking trace..... (follow the link to freedom!)

http://www.skeptictank.org/hs/vanish.htm#Section3

 

Once your out of your parents clutches as it were...would you still like contact once you have sorted yourself out..maybe writing a letter explaining yourself so they don't lose their marbles worrying (would they). just leave them a letter i think they may deserve that ... but i don't know them ??

 

This reminds me...


A few kids from my school, ages about 15-16, ran away to Arizona last week. Now note that we live in Ohio... and they got to Arizona! I'm not sure how they did it, but they succeeded that's for sure. I do know that none of them have a car or even a driver's license though. I'm not sure how they're going to get around or what the world they're going to do there. Their parents must be going insane. It sounds fun though.

 

I may send a letter once I relize they aren't going to try to make me come back home. But I am going to leave a long letter explaining everything. I was thinking of mailing it from here so that they wouldn't get it until the next day. I hate to make them worry about me, but I have to get out of here.