I've been "best friends" with this girl for 7 years. We've been through our best and our worst days together. She knows everything I would never tell anyone else. But lately it's as if we don't exist to each other. I've given up on being the only one who wants our friendship to work. I get mixed singles from her all the time, most times though its usually negative. It's been on going for a long time now, since around june maybe even earlier. I'm usually her last LAST resort to a friday night, the only time she calls me is when everyone else is busy. And when we hang out she does most of the talking, every time I speak she just talks over me. Recently my birthday came up and I didnt hear form her, she "forgot". So I IMed her and dropped a hint. I said: I got the dog biography for my birthday. You should read it kinda thing. All she said was cool. I asked her if she was mad at me or if I did something, she said no and asked why. I explained the situation. She claimed she forgot. But to be honest I don't think she forgot... it was all over facebook, myspace and shes NEVER forgotten before, infact she usually the only one who remembers. I tried not to blow the whole birthday thing out of proportion. The last time I saw her which was in sept. it was her boyfriends birthday. All that night I think we said maybe 10 words to each other. Shes not someone who I would sit down and have a cup of coffee with. Shes changed into a whole different person who I couldn't pick up out of a line up. When we do talk she wines about how many guys like her.. I mean... really shut up. It's not a bad thing that they like you, I mean would she rather them hate her? I also have tickets to a concert with her, to be honest I dont really want to go with her. But she really wants to go, I don't want to hurt her... so I'll no doubt end up going with her. But I don't think I'm going to see her after that anymore. I'm sick of being the last resort and her last option. I don't feel like waiting around for her to want to see me again, when its convent for her. Maybe this all boils down to change, but what ever it is I'm sick of it. I used to cry over this but not anymore ... I guess you can't really expect anyone to be there for you. What do you guys think.. should I try to salvage this friendship.. or just forget it. Just would like some opinions... Thanks
Aw man, that's a sad story to hear. It sounds like she is just becoming a negative person who is a little too cool for school. Do you know anything about how her other relationships are going, with other friends? Is she just isolating herself from everyone? Because sometimes people do that, and maybe it isn't anything personal. You sound a lot like me, to be honest, in that I have often taken a lot of crap from supposed "best friends" before realizing it was time to move on. Is it time to move on? It's hard to say, but in my opinion it sounds like you should spend some time apart. Maybe she will begin to value your friendship more then. I know I would be really upset if my best friend were to treat me that way I guess you could talk to her about it... tell her that you feel you are growing apart, and ask if she agrees and what she wants to do about it. Or, you could just pull away for a little while and see how she responds. I don't know what else to say really, but feel free to share more information on exactly how she is treating you, or anything that might be going on in her life that might shed more light on her behavior. Good luck. It's always a sad thing to see relationships hit rocky spots, but just know that if your friendships survives this, it will be even stronger for it, and if not, then she wasn't worth it anyway, and you will be one step closer to being with friends who truly love you and value you the way you deserve
