I definitely think you should share more. So, what exactly is it about the sex that you don't like? It's just too lustful and not romantic enough? Hopefully you can find ways to be physically intimate which please both your desires for tender affection and his desires for "hot sex." I think you should try to define what exactly you want out of the relationship and what needs to change from the status quo that will allow the relationship you want to flourish. How are things outside the bedroom?
cokes probly not helpin the situation much either.. it shoud be easy to fnd someone more compatible with you ya probly wont ever feel like your in the relationship u want, as long as hes in the relationship he wants...someone to just suck this