:H Hey all......I have been living with this guy for over 2 yrs now........He is a great guy! Lately I have been having low self esteem issues..............recently I have been looking at the computer history and looking at the websites that my guy looks at. He looks at a lot of porn which really doesnt bother me. I don't consider it cheating but the kinds of women he looks up is totally different from how I look. He even left a comment in one of the forums on a picture of a HOOTER gal saying "ID Marry this girl!" GRRR.... It makes me wonder why the hell he is with me when he looks at a totally different type of women..........eventually it got to me......and lately I have felt unattractive and yucky! He caught me one day and we got in a big fight about it. He said it was creepy and an invasion of his privacy. He was even looking at his ex girlfriends profile on MYSPACE. SO, he says its nothing that he is just curious what everyone is up to blah blah......... sighs........... So just wanted your opinions on this..... would you make a big deal if your guy did this?
why are you in his profile? is he curious about you? does he go in your stuff? invasion of privacy or not . respect the guys stuff. So if you were looking at some hot fire fighters and he was 400 lbs and you caught him how do you think he'd feel. If you feel that insecure , do something about yourself . Instead of creeping into his profile talk with him face to face. There no point in arguing with him where the arguing going to take ya either to the curb or to bed angry. Both should have better communication skills. point taken ! if you feel that badly about yourself start thinking properly and eating healthy and exercise.
you knew it was wrong that was you posted in here . that way there "your" stuff wouldn't be invaded. If he read all the posts how would you feel . let him read all the stuff your putting about him? Most of the stuff is about you A) porn-doesn't bother you B) the "other" girls are way prettier than you C) he went on the internet w/o you knowing D) your just nothing Your ewwww E) you need to fix your inner self and beauty and how you view the world and yourself.
Hey you.... you are so totally right! I know it sounds stupid but it really makes sense when a stranger says it ............... I am really ashamed:& and all. Thanks for the "wake up" call! He knows all the passwords and all the shit i post in here......... I have nothing to hide from him.......... but yea its stupid and childish to be checking to see what he does ........ anyways thanks for your feedback...appreicate it! :bandana:
I joined to find answers much like this! Yes!! I think it is wrong! I think Porn can ruin a relationship! Especially when a man watches this crap and starts to believe that there are 6 women right outside the door who would love nothing better than to strip their gorgous bodies naked and spend the next 12 hours worshiping his cock. (Damn why won't my old lady let me fuck her face till she pukes?) I'm sorry, but what happened to morals? Monogomy? scruples? Love???? forget it!
For some of us, Porn is a fantasy only. I am true to my girlfriend. Porn between us is pretty much a turn on. Also, nothing in porn is real. NOTHING!!! If you have nothing to hide, then it should be no big deal.
i can totally relate to you, it's horrible finding stuff you weren't really meant to see.. yeah there's the whole privacy thing, but really, i dont think he should be saying he'd marry some chick! that's a little much. i would just talk to him about it, and tell him how you feel, that you do feel unattractive, etc, and how it hurts to see stuff like that. .. i hate this kind of stuff!! i'm a snoop also, and i just always hope i never find anything too hurtful. i know he needs his privacy, but anything concerning me and our relationship matters to me. ..good luck!
This almost describes a previous relationship I had squarely. Your boyfriend and you need some form of personal space...where you only get in when invited. Don't you think? For that reason I wouldn't recommend snooping around. However, I imagine there is a reason you're so insecure about your boyfriend's commitment and appreciation of you. Do you feel like he isn't communicating his desires openly with you? So, you see. I and an ex-girlfriend created that dynamic for ourselves...the more I would refrain from communicating, the more she would prod, the more she would prod, the more I'd refrain from communication.
