How do you pick a partner (inspired by WarmHandedCanadian's post)

I prefer to enjoy you by myself.

 

Thats selfish of you.

 

chemistry initially, healthy interactions 2nd....

oh and sex first.... and cunnilingus 1st 1st

 

Yes it is. But if you want more people I prefer girls instead of guys though.

 

I so cannot stomach sickly sweet romance a ce moment

 

Damn, I was about to offer you some sickly sweet romance.

 

I can understand how having a special connection with one person can be viewed as the separation, but is it really? I personally dont think that it stops you from feeling how we are all the same and how there is no us and them, having a bond with one person because something sparked inside you when you met, does not interfere with that, if anything I think it grounds us more and functions as a constant reminder of this unity with the universe.

 

Hahaha. Well I s'pose if it has to do with me then that changes everything Silly me.

 

I think it is just the emptyness of the individual. We need someone else to feel completed. As a person we are such failures.

 

Ah, but then we will change things immediately, my sweet and beautiful Caitlin. :love:

 

I personally believe in love and soulmates. I am not naive, and have had my heart ripped out and pissed on.

I think a lot of it boils down to being able to care about someone more than yourself. I think people who pick logic over love go through life feeling less, whether it be good or bad. I've never been one to sacrifice intensity for safety.

So who knows, maybe I'll keep getting driven to the bottom of a bottle by love, or maybe I'll find something real. But either way, that doesn't mean it doesn't exist.

 

sometimes you have to wait a while to be able to find that person that is meant for you. and that may mean that your going to date a lot wrong people, i did forever, it felt like. i was one of those girls that was never really ever single. i was always someones girlfriend. when i was single for 6 months all at once, i finally got the chance to discover myself. it was so amazing. but anyways, the point is, that there are soulmates, and sometimes multiple ones, the time and place for the universe to introduce you to that person is unknown. and works in very mysterious and fucked up ways.

 

hah Andy used the crack analogy with me. I had his credit card for emergencies. Well, I seemed to think that a sale at Banana Republic and gap was an emergency. I asked him if he still loved me even though he is responsible and I am a shopaholic. He said yes because we basically still have the same dreams, but if I was a crack addict our goals would start to differ. Something about a preacher and a crackhead. Then we saw it on the Chris Rock HBO special so Spenc, you and Andy need to stop stealing Chris Rock's jokes.

Anywho I used logic today. I really wanted the Marc Jacobs frayed bow heels...I then thought to myself that if we want to buy a house I can't buy 400 dollar shoes anytime soon. So I found a similar pair for 100...but here's where I get deep and my love for our future really shoes...I didn't even order the 100 dollar similar pair because I bought two pairs of sorta expensive shoes last month. For me that is love. I know it sounds selfish and simple, but from my background it is really profound

 

I ttoally agree. right now we are in the honeymoon I love you a million times a day phase, but I am realistic in knowign that after a couple of kids and real life problems that might settle down a bit.

I do know, however that I will be left with someone I could spend all night conversing and playing scrabble with, spomeone who will always take care of me emotionaly and financialy and someone who will be the best dad there is out there to our future kids.

 

Also he is fun. Last weekend we got a bitching granite ourdoor fire pit and spent the whole weekend making smores and it was honestly the most fun I have ever had in my whole life

 

i knew my ex and i would never be together forever because he was meant to live in the middle of socal the rest of his life. i languished there, i hated it there. i was miserable. he'd never go camping, he'd never know how. even though we'd been together for so long, it was NOT going to last forever. either i lost myself, or he lost the life he wanted. the only thing that happen there is one person gets angrier and angrier, because their needs aren't being met. they will find a way to get the hell out of it: cheating, money, anything that will absolve them of guilt over their selfish desires and fact that "love doesn't live here anymore." why? why not just find the right person the first time out?

 

i should really have someone else pick the "perfect" mate for me, because i am doing a really shitty job of it. .. soo anyone, ideas? made i should clone myself and just be my own lesbian lover!

 

hey, boog! welcome back to the loony bin. how about you run all future candidates by the RT crowd for advance approval?

 

great idea.. i have no one in mind right now though.. only been single about 2 weeks.. i really need to take a break from BOYS, until i find a man.

 

good idea.