what would you say to this chick who's met this guy in a club, they kissed and all, the girl knows she doesnt want to get involved with anyone. the guy texts her saying he wants to see her again, she makes it clear nothing can happen between them, cos she just broke up with someone and is somehow, still a bit hurt. they meet again, they kiss and something more...he confesses, he's got a girlfriend who he's to marry in the near future, the girl says, that's ok, we're just having fun... am i being a complete bitch?
No way! You didn`t know of this apparent girlfriend, it`s on his back.. Chill and carry on doing your thing Peace
were it me: it's ok before, you didn't know he was misbehavin'. but now that you do, i'd drop that thing like no body's business. sleeeeazy. and if this is about you... think how you'd feel if it was your boy - and from all the things i've read from you and having trust issues, that's one line i wouldn't think you'd cross!! not to be judgemental haha just giving my opinion
I know supernova and I've thought about all that, but right now i'm taking things differently. Obviously i think about his girlfriend, but i dont intend to steal him from her, I'm just trying to find myself again, feel pretty, feel appreciated (even if it's just for the evening). My last experience with a guy made me feel really self conscious and i dont need that anymore, i just want to be happy with myself, and you nice, it feels nice when a guy like him finds you attractive. I know i wont get involved, and if he'd told me the first time we met that he had a girlfriend, perhaps i wouldnt have let him keep me company that evening as i wasnt feeling too well, because of my ex. He made me feel happy again and i've know a few other blokes who are friends of mine who make me feel good about myself too, cos they appreciate what I am as a woman, as a person and right now I feel that's what i need the most, some external support as I've already started liking myself again.
Drop him now. It's not worth it. More than likely, unless they have an open relationship, the girfriend, at least, is going to get hurt. You could find someone else to help you feel better about yourself (help is the important word there...you can do that on your own, as hard as it might seem right now)...I mean, ya found this guy didn't ya? And not all guys are attached of course. Is a little "fun" with this guy for the benefit of yourself really worth someone else's pain?
^^^ i agree. you may think you're helping yourself, but you're hurting someone else. obviously this guy sucks. so why do you want to get attention from a shitty guy who cheats on his girlfriend at the drop of a hat? cheating downright sucks, from every single person involved's perspective. there are many, many guys out there. you don't need one, even just to mess around with, who already has a girlfriend.
I feel that the guy senses that you are hurt from something and most likely a relationship and you need the sensitiveness that he is willing to give, in exchange for something more. I would say, 'its okay, we are just having fun' too if I was in your position at that particular time but I will definately regret it when I look back on it some years down the road but that's just me.
I know how you feel.... when you've just left a relationship, your confidence is shattered, and you need to know that you are still loveable and attractive and that guys / girls want to be with you. If you feel you can get that from this guy, then I'd say go for it. As long as you're sure you won't get hurt along the way. Sometimes we all need to be a little bit selfish.
I wouldn't believe it unless I met the gf and heard it from her. I wonder if she knows they have an open relationship....I doubt it. I've heard this song and dance before from both men and women
My first thought was yeh bitch for still wanting to see him knowing that he has a gf. But i think if i was in your situation its so much harder than just saying no. I know the feeling you just wanna feel like sexy again basically, and this guy makes you feel a bit like that but trust if this guy is playing around his girlfriend who hes just about to marry then that can only say one thing. Hes using you and that aint sexy at all. So i'd say get rid of him now, just go out clubbin with ya girls again n find some more blokes who hopefully will have more decency than this twat.
Oh yeh n i just wanna say i FUCKIN hate guys like that. Cunts i swear to god. Cheating little fuckers lol.
