what to do when the boyfriend is away?

I'm in a long distance relationship and I only get to see my boyfriend about once a month. I noticed I've started to get extremely sore when we have sex because its so infrequent. What are some techniques/ things I can do to keep my vagina from being so damn tight?!

 

"But the long and the short of it -- or the tight and the loose of it, as it were -- is that the vagina and vaginal opening are never one static size, save the size that is the closed position of both. Instead, the size of our vaginal openings and vaginas change depending on our arousal levels and state of mind, as well as what we are introducing to them or have inside them. Buying a toy with the idea of permanently "loosening" yourself up is a flawed idea: they don't have that power. Sex toys are made with pleasure in mind: if you're enjoying using them for masturbation, fantastic -- and that's about the only way they'll make a difference with vaginal tightness in any long-term way, via you just getting more comfortable with that feeling of something inside you -- but if you're not, there's no reason to use them."

http://www.scarleteen.com/article/advice/too_tight_so_should_i_use_painkillers_during_sex

So using a toy might not keep it all loosey-goosey, but maybe that's not what you need? Maybe you're just losing the comfortability with insertion of larger objects than your fingers? So maybe a vibrator or dildo could help if used in his stead?

 

you need a phone and a dildo.

 

It's not true, vibrators reduce sensitivity and loosen you up - girls who've used vibrators and dildoes are a turn off for most men - I wouldn't touch you, I'm only attracted to virgins with intact hymens.

 

do you also only think about pleasuring yourself rather than your partner? thats something you should think about..

 

Just masturbate a lot, so that you stay "in practice"
I think that will help