Hey everyone! This is my first post, as I have just heard about this website. Well, I need help, or advice! The problem is, me and my girlfriend are very close at the moment, and we have been dating for a year. We are both extremely comfortable around each other and tell one another everything. But I want to ask her about sex, and whether she feels as though she would like to do it. We are both 16. I have fingered her three times now, and she masturbated me twice, and I feel as though I want to take our relationship to the next level. Please! I need your advice!
if yall are really as close and open as you say you are, then you should bea ble to just ask her one time, how she feels about sex, if shes willing to try it with you sometime, if not around when (not specific times, but to get an idea of 18 years or soonish or whatever)
This should be obvious but----- If you are not mature enough to discuss it with your girlfriend, you are probably not mature enough to do it!
Wow! You have been dating for a year and no "sex." That is impressive, and something you should both be proud of. Regardless of the "whys" it is pretty cool that you guys have held off for so long. As for your dilemna, I would say just talk to her. She might say "no way," but then again she might not. Just realize that having sex might change your relationship, sometimes in a positive way but not always. If you both decide to "take things to the next level" just remember to be safe. Waiting until you are both ready is important, so hopefully you come up with a solution you both are happy with. There are numerous ways to please each other without "doing the deed" so if she isn't ready maybe you could try mutual masturbation or some other foreplay activity. Best of luck!
IMO He seems more nervous than immature. There is NOTHING wrong with saying "hey, can someone help me out" because that is exactly why this forum is here. Wouldn't it be nice if all teenagers wanted advice instead of jumping in with both feet only to realize too late that they made a horrible mistake. As a mom I hope my kids can talk to me, but if not I hope they have a safe and supportive place to go for advice. Personally I am impressed. To be in a relationship at ANY age and abstain from sex for a year is damned impressive.
OMG! I have to agree. Dude, if you cannot talk about these things, you are probably not mature enough to handle the consequences of these actions. STD's and Pregnancies. You have to be able to discuss and know what may happen.
