hey please dont flame or anything rude. im 18 year old guy, basicly veryinexperienced with girls. ive had two girl freinds in highschool, never went further then 2 base. im 18 years old had have never been involved in a real, meaninful relationship. is the odd? i mean i have so many friends that are shy like me insecure like me but still have had a few good relationships and sex. one more thing, ive always wanted my first time to be with someone special someone i care about, but as time goes by im considering just going out to a few parties and hookin up with some random girls. should i instead search for a meaninful relationship first?
I chose do either. Really, if you're safe and respectful about it, sex for sex's sake is fine. Alternatley, finding a real good person would be awesome too. You're young. There are plenty of girls ahead of you. Some will break your heart, you'll break some hearts, and some girls will just be girls you happened to hook up with. Cheers, PS a lot of your friends are probably bulls***ing you about hooking up with girls etc
Everyone has different preferences, but I would vote to wait for someone somewhat special. So that way, it will be more comfortable and they won't judge you or anything. Good luck
well im 18 too and ive never had a boyfriend...and same, ive never gone further than second base with someone. To be honest I have even contemplated a random hook-up too ... but then I was thinking really hard about it about it and wow I realized I would never want that. The experience will be so much more special and intense if it's with someone who actually cares about me and someone who I have a meaningful relationship with I think I would regret it if it wasn't that way So all im saying is that you're not the only one out there and it will surely be worth the wait to find that special person
i say wait for someone special yadont want regrets but on that note i say u & greenpeace should talk a lil & see if theres sparks there
Do wait. Honestly, try to think of why you feel the pressure to have sex. Is it your friends? Is it the media? America is the only place I've been to where there's just this strong social pressure to fuck around. Don't let it get to you, and just do things at your own pace however you want to do them. I myself wouldn't touch a girl with a stick if I didn't have any feelings for her.
you can do either. but remember its all how you present yourself. your either a shy caring guy who wants it to be special and is looking for love or your just a guy looking for a short cut to a peice of ass not caring who its with. theirs nothin wrong with either. but you could go out to the club and other places to meet people make new friends. just become more social. and then go from their. if ur lookin for a girl. then hell yeah hit up every girl you see. but if you still want it to be special. dont just hook up with the hottest one. try and get to know them for while.
and? ya mean u can only be into someone if theyre conviniently livin next door? & bsr how about with a stick with a condom on it?
I guess. I'm just not into the whole "sex for the sake of sex" thing. Sex dominates this society, and many people's minds. There is way too much emphasis put on it. I can name a hundred things that are more beautiful and interesting than sex.
young fella........the one and only happening that will put an end to your confusion........ get laid.. and make sure it is with a woman much older and much more experienced than yourself. go looking for that mrs.something...or that woman you see around who smiles nicely at you........an older woman will set you right and teach you lots...........prepare yourself for this approach to the exclusion of all others, until it is accomplished.......and as benjamin franklin said in his advice to a young man........she will be eternally grateful!
i went for 'do either' if you want to have sex with someone special then wait, if you're tired of waiting try to chill and see what happens. and btw it will happen sooner or later so just don't obsess about it and be cool (hmm i do sound like i'm stoned...)
I would advise not taking strangers advice on the internet. You're a man. You make the call. I'm a romantic, so I know what I'd choose. If it's different for you, then go with it.
I'm in the same boat as you, I consider going to find some random hook up at a party but at the same time I'd rather find someone I can make a connection with. I never had any serious relationships in HS and have also only gotten to 2nd base. I guess there's more of us out there then we'd think.
it's true yeah i sometimes wish i've had a bit more romance in my life it'll happen someday hopfully soon
i surely agree with you sugart's. lode, dont have such a negative attitude. If someone needs some advice, we're all here to help
