My dreads are 10 months old now, I know loads of people with dreads and some of them dont suit them at all but mine are me, even my mates who have known me for years said the other night they have made me more confident, happy, outgoing but also im not more protective, wary and shitty with people. I explained ot them that with dreads you sometimes do get some stick and you learn how to take it in a way where you dont have to use ya fists!! Does anyone else get kinda like this? I mean have your dreads changed you? Ohh and do other people get times where they wanna go and get a pair of scissors and chop the fuckers off because they smell, or they are just annoying you and you want all girly nice hair back!!
Haha. I just put mine in yesterday... so I don't have a lot of experience with them. But I realised that with my hair like this I want to be nicer to people, I don't know. I think I feel better because I am just doing my own thing and I KNOW i'm going to get guff from everybody, so I just act nice to try to prevent them from being biased before I even talk to them. As for girly hair... well... I never really thought about that. I prefer my hair short but it looks good long, but then again long, I can't stand it (all it does is get in my face!)
i just started my dreads, too... 3 or 4 weeks ago. i'm going natural- i have curly hair, so i don't think anyone's really noticed yet (um, like not even my boyfriend, who i live with. maybe he's just being polite, not bringing it up. then again it took him 2 days to notice when i cut 10 inches off my hair this summer.... meh ) i'm really excited actually; i'm been so sick of fighting with my hair my entire life (my mom called it a rat's nest when i was a kid ), and i feel having dreads will give me less stress and more stability when it comes to my appearance.
i'm a guy so i don't think iw ould want my 'girly hair" back, but occasionally i miss running my fingers thru my hair and sometimes their a pain in the butt, but i love them and i would say they've changed me confidence-wise.
i was just thinking this today. im going to return home to the united states after three months in spain with... -spanish fluency -dreads -guaged ears (and pierced for the first time too but now they are at .10 with some gnarly horns) -spanish habits (late for everything) -smoking like a chimney dreads are one of the more visible changes in my personality and im wondering how that will affect peoples ideas of me when i return, in addition to the other stuff..meh
